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Does not having sex until 20 make me less of a sexual person

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S-e-x advice Okay I am right now 30 and I have been with the same girl for 10 years we are married and everything is good we are both a modern couple as in we don't really want the house in the suburbs or kids we are happy with an apartment in a busy city. Now I meet my wife when I was 18 in college and her first year of college she had numerous sexual partners all of which were casual sexual partners such as one night stands or FWB and she also had a threesome once. We were friends and I knew of her sexual history very well

(I was usally the person who would help take her back to her dorm room when she was hungover and had a one night stand that night) either way she knew I was embrassed to be a virgin and I was embrassed to talk about being and how I wanted to lose my virgintiy. I had some Hangups with sex before her but I got over them with therapy and she decided she really wanted to have sex with me and she wanted to help me be able to join in on sex conversations with friends and give me sexual history

so we ended up having sex second semester of our sophmore year in college and I have to admit it was rocky at first but it got really good she cared so much about me and pleasing me sexually I remember when I first saw her naked and first saw a naked woman she would give me a lap dance and would lie naked on my chest and kiss me we started having amazing we would have sex around twice a day

I remember my junior year of college I got a single dorm room and she moved I with me and we got an air matress and lived on it and would have sex everyday I mean it was amazing I was able to make her scream and I would give her multiple orgasms and I even learned how to make her squirt I mean she has told me that I am giving her the sex she has always dreamed of and she says i am a sex god. And she isn't lying I have overheard her talk to her friends about how good I am at sex.

And we still have sex everyday usually once in the morning when we wake up and once before bed and we also try to have sex each day after we get home from work so we have an amazing sex life and now I have a better sex life than all my high school and college friends who used to make fun of me for not having sex.

I mean my sex life is amazing and all and I love her but I feel like a loser because I didn't have sex until 20 I mean I didn't have sex as a teenager and everyone lost there virginity like 4 years before me I just feel like less of a sexual person like I am still a virgin even though I have sex every day I thought about how I wished I had sex as a teenager because of how horny I was but now a days I still get horny and now when I get Horny I have a wife I can have sex with.

I know I was sexually frustrated so much in my teens but I am beyond sexually satisfied now and I felt like such a loser to be the only Virgin in college at 20 but I did make up for lost time I my junior and senior year of college. I just feel like I am not a sexual person even though I am sexually active and people will never think of me as sexually active now I mean sex is a very important part of my life and I cant imagine a day without it I just wanna know am I loser and less of a sexual person for not having sex until 20

Does not having sex until 20 make me less of a sexual person

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I suggest you stop thinking about the past so much.

"I feel like a loser because I didn't have sex until 20"

Perhaps you were waiting for someone special to come along. Sounds like you did.

Relax and enjoy things as they are NOW.

Does not having sex until 20 make me less of a sexual person

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"Perhaps you were waiting for someone special to come along. Sounds like you did."

Agree. You CAN have urges you're not consciously aware of, you know, Cubbiefink. And also - "I didn't have sex as a teenager and everyone lost there virginity like 4 years before me". Or so they reckoned. You have to take those sorts of so-called disclosures with a pinch of salt at that age, however. E.g., once, at school (many moons ago), I actually overheard a couple of friends that were dating, making a whispered pact about deliberately fooling the rest of us into believing they'd had sex together ...as if anyone really cared, anyway.

It's not a competition. It's more a making-testimony of having found your One Of Your Ones (or, your case, THE One).

I remember on another occasion, being asked, 'Are you good in bed?'. I said, 'Yep! I go to sleep when I'm s'posed to and don't make crumbs'. ;-p

SMILE! Your worries are all behind you! :-)

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