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Husband just got out of the military, and I'm missing the military life?

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I know that a lot of wives or spouses who have experienced being married into the military would probably say "ohh you didn't go through what he went through" or "maybe you should join if you love it so much" and blah blah blah. But even though I do kinda miss the military life I guess what I'm saying is I miss being able to be on my own. Me and my husband are young. He's 21 I'm 19. We got married a year ago and he just got out of the military early (too much to go into detail why). When I married him and moved in with him I had just turned 18 and just got out of high school and he had been in for almost a year. So it was our first time really being on our own. We had a house on base, and our own things and it was just great. I loved it! But things started happening and just a couple months ago he started getting processed out. Fast forward to now. We moved back to his hometown, we are currently living with his parents, were in debt. And he has a job he just started and I'm not working but currently looking which is hard because I've never worked so I have no experience. I just get so depressed from how we downgraded from this life we were starting, to living with his parents cramped in a tiny space. I know I have to wait for things to get better but I wasn't prepared for this at all to happen when we first started. Military life was a new thing to get used to and can be hard at times and I actually loved it, but this? I was not ready for. It sucks so bad, I wanna cry every time I go on social medias and see my military friends I made and seeing them with their husbands going out and having a good time, while here I have no friends to hang out with so I'm in the house literally 24/7. I'm really hoping I can get a job soon so i can help us out more and to also get my mind off past things. Even though I know some people have it way worse, I just feel like I have suckiest life right now. (Sorry this wasn't really a question, more of like a rant).

Husband just got out of the military, and I'm missing the military life?

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well, I don't blame you. You said "So it was our first time really being on our own. We had a house on base, and our own things and it was just great. I loved it!" Now, you are living in cramped quarters with parents. What is your husband doing now for work? Why are you in debt? Good luck on getting a job. You both need to make it a top priority to get your own place.

Husband just got out of the military, and I'm missing the military life?

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@SUSIEDQQ well we're both in debt because during the last month of him being in we had to use money we didn't even have to clean the house before we left and for food and other things because the military was gonna mail him his last check instead of just paying him when ever everyone else was getting paid plus we used even more to move back down to where we're at now, so we were going back and forth between using his debit card and my credit card. he's currently working at where his mother works which doesn't even pay nearly as much as he was getting paid in the military because he's having to start out part time. And thanks! And yeah well we're trying to pay off our debts first and then start saving for a place. I mean we're not that much in debt but it'd be good to pay it off first.

Husband just got out of the military, and I'm missing the military life?

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I hope that in many years from now, you will look back and smile at these days when you were "just starting out, struggling to make ends meet." Sounds like you both could be going back to school, part time, to get more training for a career. There are lots of scholarships or grants available, plus his GI bill for school. Good luck.

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