I am addicted to my girlfriend. Need advice
I have had many relationships, some good, others bad. But the woman who i am hoping to marry is kind, sweet, nurturing and everything i am wanting. i love her, but when she is not around I feel sick. Physically. I feel like crying and no matter what , I cant seem to understand. I love her with all of my soul. I know i cant live without her. Even without much sexual intimacy, I just need her. All i yearn for is her to be within sight of me. just her being around me is enough to fuel my high.
I dont know how to cope. I need some advice or someone to talk to about this. Please.
Oh, isn't love grand?
Seems you have released your soul in this and the soul mate is not in tune with your vibration.
Yes, this happens and yes, you dont want anyone but them!
However, it.becomes a clingy situation and dignity goes right out the door in love. See, some dont know what love is, nor do they understand the giver. You may be a ancient romantic and them a new school lover. Find the ways for them to absorb your loyal love and receive it so you can getit back. Funny, love becomes a one way street at times and you can become lost on this lonely highway if you.just cant get that love soul address.
Take you love and make sure to give it unconditionally at all times, that way you know when it doent work its wasnt yoiur love that failed, but whom was receiving it that didnt absorb it.
You may be manic-depressive, or just plain sick. Same thing. It's a joke, hello!
I'm manic-depressive and have very strong feelings about things, some good, some bad, but very strong.
Plus sex is an addictive. It can be pleasurable, but it can also have a dangerous side.
Wait until she dumps you and you'll find out what that part is about, dangerous in that you think you're going to die without her and the sex. Dangerous in that what if she gets pregnant?
It's not a play toy, it has a purpose. The degree to which it can go up, 100%, it can also go down, 100%.
Jumping into sex early is not a cure-all. What goes up, must come down, as the band Chicago put it in one of their songs.
As for the manic-depression, you might want to look that up on the search engine, and see if that might be you. You probably need to know that, because you're going to be for a lot of trouble and knowing what it may be tied to would be a help, and what can help with that, lithium, etc.
"but when she is not around I feel sick. Physically."
You said, "I feel like crying and no matter what"
You said, "I cant seem to understand."
What you can't understand is why your mind is out of control. You're trying to understand mental illness, and you can't. You're missing something, and it's not just your girlfriend. You're missing a part of your sanity.
I have that feeling, also, so I have an idea of what you're going through.
You don't need something that will make you speed even more. You need something that will slow your mind down. What you probably need is lithium, or the newer medicines that also help, I understand.
You think it's your girlfriend that you're missing. And I'm sure she's great. But you can't handle it. She speeds you up and you think that's the answer to your life. What she's not going to be able to do is slow you down when you get into mania, which is where you are now, but not like where you're going to be if you don't get some help.
Yu say, "I love her with all of my soul. I know i cant live without her. Even without much sexual intimacy, I just need her. All i yearn for is her to be within sight of me."
You say, "just her being around me is enough to fuel my high."
You're in orbit you're so high. When she drops you, you're going to be in depression to the same degree, which will be so severe you won't know how to get out of that.
Lithium, which helps bring down mania, and improve or lift depression.
Take one or two of the manic-depression quizzes on the net, and see how you rate. Print out your results and save them for when you go to a psychiatrist, who will miss-diagnose you, cause they don't ask any questions, they just listen to you talk about your depression, and think you are depressed, or listen to your manic thoughts, and think you are just manic.
If they miss-diagnose you, they will miss medicate you, and you won't get any help.
Show your quiz results which show you are manic depressive, so they can give you lithium.
"I dont know how to cope. I need some advice or someone to talk to about this. Please."
This doesn't show you are in love, this shows you are desperate. This shows you know you're going over a cliff.
As a manic-depressive, I felt like I was going over a cliff, which I did, I had a nervous breakdown, because I didn't go to a doctor, and when I did I got miss-diagnosed, and miss-medicated, for about 15 or 20 years.
Take a manic-depressive quiz, and let us know what it says. Otherwise, you'll think it's all about love, and it's not.
(Please excuse this brief interruption, ADDICTINSFORUM.)
EmptyYourCup and PJVL,
- "and the soul mate is not in tune with your vibration" - zero basis contained whatsoever in what little the OP supplied as data = massive assumption
- "However, it.becomes a clingy situation and dignity goes right out the door" - again, zero basis, subjective perception/experience = massive assumption
- "You're trying to understand mental illness" + "You may be manic-depressive" + "You're missing a part of your sanity" - ditto, pure projection = grossly inappropriate assumption
- "Wait until she dumps you" + "When she drops you" - ditto, projection of negativity of attitude
- "Dangerous in that what if she gets pregnant?" - ditto plus irrelevant.
...and same for much of the rest.
In future, you two, please be a lot more careful about your responses. Thank-you.
Now 'bumping up' Susiedqqq's fact-finding questions:
How long has it been for this relationship?
Does she feel the same intensity you do?
ADDICTSINFORUM, are you still there?