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Wife cheating on me due sexual dissatisfaction

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The woman I love with all of my tenderness and above everything, light of my life, has been sustaining an affair with another man due to sexual dissatisfaction. I had no idea of what she was doing until Istarted noticing she felt different during sex. It did not feel the way it used to. It felt more loosed and more stretched than usual. We've been married for almost two years. I love this woman above anything. I work for a highly prestigious firm of engineers and I earn a very good money. I've been able to purchase a highly elegant, highly luxurious manor in a highly wealthy residential area. I've paid for her reallyexpensive beauty treatments that have turned her into a delicately beautiful human jewel. I constantly purchase for her expensive fur coats, expensive jewelry and expensive make-up kits from the finest brands. I bought her an ultimate model automobile from Chrysler. And I also purchased a luxury apartment for her with one of the most beautiful views you can possibly get. Her mother was seriously ill and I put the money to send her on a trip to a prestigious medical center overseas where they offer the kind of treatment she needs and upon her return, she is well and cured and is happier and livelier thsn ever. Her brother, very dear to her, was in a serious problem with the law which could have costed him a tough sentence and I paid one of the best lawyers around and a settlement was reached and they set him free, with her embracing him with tears in her eyes. Her youngest sister is going to college next year, and I bought her a brand new toyota model so that she can go to work while she studies. I guess I've done whatever is in my power to make this woman happy! She treats me well and there's been a lot of love and connection between the both of us. Our sex life -so I thought- was very good and she seemed to enjoy being with me in bed for hours. So, I'm not too sure of what went wrong! Suddenly, upon my coming back from a short business trip I made, something felt different! It was as if for some reason something didn't smell the same. Her attitude towards me was the same, lovely as usual, but something was or wasn't there. For some reason my sixth sense told me something was wrong. When I went to bed with her, it felt different and it didn't fix or got any better. So I started to suspect something wasn't right. But I decided to keep silent and feign I didn't notice anything. But I decided to watch her and follow her around. I checked her mobile phone and her e-mails and facebook accounts, but nothing unusual. Whatever was going on was very carefully dissimulated. I managed to hide a camera in the garden area in front of the main door, but no images of any man coming or going in or out of the house has ever been recorded. The only images recorded are of her going out of the house and returning one, two or three hours later, usually from a gym she goes to. It took me hiring a detective I paid too well. He started to follow her around. And did he informed me of all he found! I couldn't and still can't believe all that was shown to me. As I saw every picture and video it was as if a sharp knife pierced my heart! I never thought her capable of such dishonsty to me, after all the love and tenderness I've given her and after all I've done to satisfy her and make her little wishes a beautiful dream come true! How can she do this to me? I love her with all tenderness of my heart, she is the light So many years waiting for her in prayer, asking God time and time again to put me on the path to her. When I finally met her, she was the most noble woman a man can ever dream of seeing. So pure. So delicate. So honest. So hardworking. So transparent. So simple. So goodhearted.A woman rarely seen nowadays. The look in her eyes was so pure, so clean and profound, that it reached me deep inside and left me impressed. Her beautiful eyes. Her purity! The simple, clear and honest speech of hers. All that made her so different from the others! I started dreaming, happy that at last I've met her! I started arriving earlier to a cafeteria nearby, with the excuse of buying breakfast. But my real intentions were meeting her. And yes, she was there at the proper hour. So I found the excuse to talk to her and began by asking a question. She gladly informed me. So I inmediately went on and a brief conversation started. She ended up giving me her name and I mine. Next day I was there with flowers, which I gave her and she thanked me with a smile. I told her that the information she had given me the previous day was valuable. And as I gsve her the flowers, I had attached a card with my name and number, so that she could call me if she needed me. But I kept going there early every morning with flowers for her. That day the public trasportation was paralized due to a strike and she wouldn't arrive on time to her office, so I took her there in my car. I also told her that if transportation wasn't working in the afternoon due to the strike still going on, not to go home on foot as it was far away, but to call me to the number I provided her in the card and I would gladly come pick her up. And she did call! And it all started there! She accepted my invitation to diner at an elegant restaurant. We danced that night! She gave me her number and I called and kept calling! We exchanged opinions about a million things. We had conversations for two to three hours over the phone every night. She laughed at every ocurrence of mine. And then I started expressing my feelings and impressions about her beauty. Thus romance took place between she and I. We became each other's universe. Our feelings for each other always were strong. As I remember those little moments of our love, tears come down my cheeks. I can't understand how is it that I came to loose her. I've always tried to be so loving and romantic to her. I've treated her literally like a queen, spending high amounts of my earnings to give her the happy, good life she deserves. I've equipped her with everything. Plus I continously work on myself to keep her attracted to me. I lift weights. I run marathons. I swimm. I do gymnastics. I play tennis, golf and polo. I play guitar and piano. I've wrote poems for her and I even started a draw and paint course to paint pictures of her and one these days, present them to her as an unexpected urprise. I text her continously! I bring all kinds of surprises home for her! And I DO NOT FORGET special dates and occassions as anniversaries, birthdays, thanksgiving, christmas, st. valantine and the like. I really, really pay much attention to my woman. When I finally decided to confront her I told her that it was my belief there was something she wasn't telling me and that I feared it was something serious (I've not shown her the pictures and photos the detective gave me of her embracing, kissing and laughing with another man). She started to deny firmly, with such a conviction and strength that if not because I have the pictures, I would have believed her. Thanks heaven she hasn't outsmart me yet! I told her that I've began noticing certain small but significant changes indicative of something serious and that I wanted to take her to the physician for a medical check up, and that it was not optional for her. So, very much against her will, and at my request I had her accompany me to the clinic for some tests and laboratories. I suspected she had become infected with an STD, since she began showing certain symptoms she didn't previously have and which the doctor informed me were symptoms proper of a person who has had a sexual contact. The doctor performed laboratories on me and found me in perfect state of health, and so he informed me that it was not probable that those symptoms presented by my wife came from any sexual contact with me, but that unfortunately,those were symptoms of an STD and that she must have had sexual contact with somebody else,in order to contract them. I already mentioned that from a time I feel her different in her vagina. It is more loosed, more stretched and deeper. It definitely doesn't feel the same! I talked to a friend of hers, and she told me that my wife told her that she was feeling sexually frustrated and dissatisfied, as she wasn't experiencing orgasms. And as a result, she had started to feel tempted to find for herself a lover, another man that knows how to give orgasms to a woman. I will definitely use the pictures and all the evidence to file for divorce and I will request the court to giveme the custody of my children. My spiritual director advised me to take the kids from her amd to remain with the custody, since that woman is unfaithful and ungrateful and because he is witness that I've been a reponsible, caring,loving and loyal husband and an excellent dad. He is of the opinion that because of the excellent way I'vetreated her and because of all the beautiful things I've given her, she could have handled the problem of sexualdissatisfaction in a different, more responsible way. That her getting herself another man has been a childish and foolish act of hers, since there is a lot of information available out there from which she could have learned the proper technique of getting an orgasm and then teach it to me. That was the least she could have done for a man who like me has given her his "very, very, very best". And that there are sexologysts out there who can furnishus with all kinds of information on a woman sexual dissatisfaction and the appropriate techniques to cause a woman to orgasm. As a result of this, I went to a sexologyst personally and told her about my wife's problem. She told me that lack of orgasms is a problem very common among women. And that lack of knowledge of how to provide these much needed orgasms to women was also very common among men. In fact, I confess, I did not know myself how to cause an orgasm to my wife. I never learned that from porno magazines, movies or videos or from word of mouth. The sexologyst told me that causing orgasm to a woman has nothing to do with penile penetration or intercourse. She said that it is the use of the finger applied to right area the one thing responsible for inmensely pleasurable orgasms in a woman. And that use of the penis doesn't get the job done! She suggested me some videos that would explain and show the rightfingering technique that causes a woman to ejaculate. I went ahead and ordered those videos minutes after finishing my conversation with the sexologyst. After watching those videos, I was surprised at how simple it is making woman explode in continous, non-stop intense orgasms and you only use your finger or hand. Mastering this makes a woman addicted to the man who causes her to gush like a geyser. And the absence of this simple knowledge is causing thousands of woman to be unfaithful to their husbands, many of them not suspecting a thing for years and years. Loving, caring, good, faithful and responsible men, deeply in love with their wives (like me) being cheated for not knowing a simple fingering technique. And for that simplicity (using your finger in her vagina, which she could have bothered to learn from one of her female friends or from a sexologyst or from a dvd, and then teach it to me (I would have gladly finger her properly had I known this), she changed me and all the beautiful, good things I've given her with so much love and tenderness, for another man, who simply knew this fingering technique. That other guy is not even as tall and elegant as I am and doesn't even earn the level of income that I do and much less can he give her all that I can. The beauty she is giving him in bed, and which he so much enjoys, belongs to me, her husband, the one who has spent thousands of dollars from his paycheck to pay for her expensive non-surgical beauty treatments (in which she's been for months) that have transformed her into a complete human jewel. I get praised most of the time by other men for having a wife this beautiful! That beauty is mine, belongs to me and as her rightful husband, I claim what is mine! I didn't take it from nobody else! I conquered this woman because I loved her and she was the most amazing, wonderful girl, pure of heart and mind, that I've ever seen! She has no right to give to any other man what belongs to me! I've been a very faithful husband. I've been a very good provider. I've been a very caring, tender and sweet lover in bed, lasting long enough in intercourse after ejaculation, and doing lots of foreplay and all things she likes. I've been very loving and caring with her loved ones, her family, who became dear to me. I've treated all those who are important and significant to her with love, respect and consideration. I've never ashamed her neither in public nor in private. I do not raise my voice to her in anger and I treat her in a very fine, nice, elegant and considerate manner. I always pay attention to not hurting her feelings or making her feel uncomfortable, ignored or unhappy. I do not promote an environment of intimidation at home. I always try to motivate and stimulate her and I always compliment and praise her and bring her lots of interesting, curious, exciting or even exotic things. I always try to teach or lead not with words, but with patience and example. It's sometimes difficult, but I prefer to gradually get her used to a higher, better and more advanced form of thinking and way of doing and handling things. I truly want to form a highly distinguished and polished family, a family I can be proud of. I waited many, many years for this, while preparing and carefully getting ready for married life. So when I finally met the one my heart went crazy for, I was ready to give her my very best. All the trials, difficulties and hardships life gave me before getting to where I now am, I utilized to cultivate the best in myself, earn the respect of everyone around me and to become a highly disciplined individual. When I met her, her wonderful qualities made me crazy. At last I find the one, I thought! My spiritual director and all those who have known me throughout the years know this very well. They all agree that I've been as good as i can. So, what went wrong? Why she didn't tell me about her dissatisfaction, even though she knew I would do anything to make her happy and whole? Why she didn't mention a word to me? She knows that I'm a very mature, open-minded and understanding man. And that I love listening to her and taking all she says very seriously! Why didn't she say word even though she knew I would do anything to find the answer, as I in fsct already have? Honestly, i don't think I deserve this from her. She's gone too far and I'm hurt, dishonored and profoundly and seriously dissappointed of her. I just cannot ever trust her again! I don't deserve this! I will definitely file for divorce and request custody of my children, as my director strongly urges me to do! I'm also concerned about her family. I've not yet told them anything, but I defifnitely will. I know they do not expect this kind of behaviour from a woman they carefully educated. Also, our acquaintances will get the sad news, too! They all have a high opinion of me and I fear they will seriously pound on her! The consequences of her childish, irresponsible act, as I can foresee, are awful! The problem is that I am quickly and seriously falling out of love with her. I'm seriously hurt and dissappointed. She could have had handled things differently. We would have both been still very happy! But she just spoiled and ruined it all, and mostly herself! I definitely no longer want her! And our acquaintances are sure to pound on her and tear her apart once i decide to tell them the truth and all that she's done to me! And it all adds the fact that she has symptoms of having contracted an STD, so she was putting me in risk of being infected too! When the detective I hired showed me the photos and images, I cried sadly that night! I was truly hurting and was feeling devastated. But i also knew I've given her my very best and that I don't deserve this. This has given methe courage to take a firm stand. I don't think she has an excuse. She could have handled this more wisely and intelligently, by simply saying her problem to me. She did not care! This has been too low an act from her! I don't feel like taking silly, stupid and cheap excuses. I'm taking swift action! Now the case is that all these orgasm provoking techniques I've learned i don't want to use them on her. I would have gladly performed them on her, but I no longer want. She does not merit it! She preferred another man. I told all this to a femalre friend that I met years ago and that we both have remained good friends all this long! Now, this one is an excellent girl. Pride of her family! She has always sent me signals of being in love with me! I also enjoy her company a lot and I like her very much, she always rejoices my heart and I think she is very gorgeous and attractive. I simply did not have a loving interest in her. She has given me lots of support in my situation with my wife and has proven to have a great healing power with her words, her support, her encouragement, her under standing, her wisdom in counseling and advising and her intelligence at handling and analyzing problems and difficulties. She is a beautifully wise and acute problem solver. Not the kind of girl that would bite into cheap baits! She is really a thoughtful female! I admire her intelligence! Her conduct has always fascinated me! With her support and her being there for me, she has delivered me from all the shame, anguish, humilliation, dissappointment, anxiety and deppression that would have fallen upon me had it not been her being there. She has proven to be so helpful to me, that I feel defended and protected by someone for the first time in my life (I've always been a loner with very few, if any, friends, before getting married). I feel like someone truly cares for the first time! I feel her love,I feel her care and I feel her protection and support in my mind and in my feelings. I don't feel abandoned for the first time in my life. I finally feel there is somebody else there for me. And I love her and appreciate her a lot for that. I feel my felings for her are intensifying. I feel her love, her care and her support! She 's been a loner like me and we have a lot in common. Our lives are truly parallel and we have a lot, truly a lot in common! She has not had a love relationship yet. She adores social events. I feel closer and closer to her and I feel that without her I wouln't have handled my situation properly. I need her presence in my life. I'm really considering proposing to her and I have already started a relationship with her. I'm definitely going divorce my current wife. She definitely keeps showing me a love interest, even though she well knows I'm now married! It doesn't seem to bother her. We were talking and suddenly our conversation felt very romantic and I felt really good. We started to listen to music together and we kissed. All these months she 's been very very valuable to me, in my crisis. We have come really close to each other. Divorce is my definite solution! Now, I'm planning to propose to my friend and she will definitely accept. There's no possible doubt in my mind. And I will marry her! I will definitely use the fingering techniques on her during sex, because I will definitely not loose this one. Not this one!! Too precious to me over the years! Really a precious gift from heaven. She herself told me that for the kind of husband that I've been to my current wife, she could have given it a better chance and more thought before going out to get herself a lover. She saysthat I'm more than worth it and had it been her, she would have first investigated or ask questions or spoken to a specialist on the options available, before going that far and risk loosing her marriage like that. She herself does not understand the thoughtless attitude of my current wife, much less when she knew that by saying something to me about the problem, I would have found the solution as I have with all the other problems and difficulties we've come across. As a matter of fact, I already found it! And the sexologyst commented that that fingering technique is the one that lover surely uses to give her that orgasmic satisfaction, as penile penetration or mere intercourse alone, regardless of how long you endure, does not cause orgasm. The fingering technique does when applied to a sensitive area known as the G-Spot. And the technique is so simple, that it doesn't take a superman or machoman with impressive iron muscles and a ten or twelve inches penis to cause the ecstasys of orgasm. Nor does it take lasting too long, say twenty or thirty minutes. A few minutes is all that is needed to make a woman have a powerful gushing orgasm, by mere use of the finger. Therefore, given these facts, my current wife was simply not justified to do what she has been doing (cheating). She should have had spoken her problem. Ask questions. Visit a sexologyst or ask a female married friend. Look for information on the internet and purchase videos and dvd's. And the answer is more or less likely to appear quickly. Which is exactly what I, the husband, have come to do. Then, she should have had taught me the technique, so that from that very night onwards I, her husband, could give her as many orgasms as she wanted. And therefore we would have still remained a happy married couple, faithful to each other. She preferred not to act with intelligence and out of stupidity, risk a wonderful marriage like ours. I gave her all the comfort and well being a man can possibly give his wife. How wouldn't have I given her the orgasms she so much needed, had I known the fingering technique and the existence of the G-Spot? Now, because of her stupidity, her childish attitude of not speaking up on time, and her thougthtless decision of getting a lover, it is now all over! Our marriage is over, because she did not think of me the way I always think of her when I do something! She did not honor me or tried to avoid at all costs her being unfaithful. If she was happy with all the things she enjoyed next to me, I don't know what is she going to do when I remove most of all I gave her, which is under my name; not hers! We investigated that lover and he is wanted in other places for theft and other serious offenses. He apparently got a woman pregnat in other state and she is looking for him. Plus, my current wife will be labeled an adulteress by our acquaintances, and I know many of them will make sure her offense follows her everywhere, so a decent man will probably not want a woman like that. I've seriously given it much thought, and my decision to divorce my current life, to later marry my now girlfriend, firmly stands. But I felt the need to pour out my heart. Any comments are much apreciated!

Wife cheating on me due sexual dissatisfaction

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I doubt if your wife had an affair simply because of sex. I hope that you will at least go to couples counseling to find out why your wife strayed. There is a real lack of communication in your marriage. This other man did not overwhelm her or treat her like a possession; perhaps that was the attraction. You really had some sympathy (your huge ego aside) until I read: "I have already started a relationship with her . . ." Now you are doing the same behavior which you accuse your wife. It seems there is no advice wanted here. You have put in motion all those things that feed a large ego. 'nuff said.

Wife cheating on me due sexual dissatisfaction

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Are you overly proud and conceited normally or are you just desperately trying your best to pump your shrivelled ego back up, including seeking rectificatory validation in the (emotionally) premature arms of another woman? Also, *are* you lowering yourself to her level or was this new relationship started within a climate wherein by then it were too obvious to anyone that your 'marriage' were over, if simply not yet officially? "And as I gsve her the flowers, I had **attached a card with my name and number, so that she could call me if she needed me**. But I kept going there early every morning with flowers for her. That day the public trasportation was paralized due to a strike and she wouldn't arrive on time to her office, **so I took her there in my car**. I **also told her that if transportation wasn't working in the afternoon due to the strike still going on, not to go home on foot as it was far away, but to call me to the number I provided her in the card and I would gladly come pick her up**." Hi, gorgeous, my name's SIRDARRICK and I'd *love* to be your personal, free-of-charge lackey come chauffeur come *dad*, says the over-keen pre-payer! / Deal!, says the gold-digger. And everything else stemmed from that base dynamic on-offer made crystal-clear. (Gold-diggers, once they get too used to rolling around in the gold, tend to eventually grow bored of it and seek new self-gratifying challenges (still wealthy man - via ill-gotten gain - but 'exciting' with it). Not so the love-digger.) " I loved her and she was the most amazing, wonderful girl, pure of heart and mind, that I've ever seen!" Evidently *not*, wouldn't you now have to concede? Well educated academically she may be, but her parents/family should think about pounding themselves before they pound her - *and* her brother aka co-apple as fell from that same tree - for not having educated her (or he) *morally* and for having instilled or reinforced in her (and he) a gross sense of selfish, self-obsessed, over-entitlement (Taker x 2 seeks Giver, be it an individual or a group/society), don't you think? ALMOST right qualities, in terms of the hard-work ethic (but bar the attitude that money can buy you love or count as heart insurance as rendered you a prime co-dependant and enabler) - wrong recipient. Next time (and there will be a next time if you can work on your self-worth irrespective of material wealth and so-called social status), try not to float away first with the Impatience and then the Honeymoon and Self-Indulgent-Over-Giving fairies to the extent where your powers of scrutiny and judgement go for a Burton and you get taken as a Sugar Daddy who needs nothing to keep him happy other than to give-give-give, help-help-help. Oh, and don't do the usual pendulum-swing to the opposite-extreme type as a reaction to this whole event, either, or you'll just end up with the opposite-extreme problem or role-reversal; try to be more balanced and then you'll attract/keep a likewise more balanced individual. In short, walk into the room heart-first BUT self-worth-first too (as waits for reciprocation), not wallet-first. Or don't complain if the scent you gave off ended up attracting a 'wallet bee' with your life complacency spilling over into your attitude towards your primary relationship. Put another way, what you basically did was ASSUME that the car you fancied in the car showroom couldn't possibly be a lemon considering what you thought was your all-too-apparent air of distinction and hence handed your currency (heart) over after having paid inadequate attention during the too-short test-drive. CLEARLY you made up your mind too early - before you even met her, I'd say! - forming un-shiftable opinions that you then made her fit with in your mind. And I say 'clearly' because here you are, STILL waxing lyrical in denial about what an utter diamond she was when her actions to beat ALL actions prove the highly distinct opposite! See what I'm saying? PS: I don't know what your spiritual doctor is talking about. Crap wife does not automatically equate in the court's eyes to abusive mother unworthy of the normal custody rights.

Wife cheating on me due sexual dissatisfaction

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SUSIEDQQ, from what I've been able to find, by asking some of her close female friends, is that apparently she was frequently complaining in front of them of being deeply dissatisfied sexually for not being experiencing orgasms. Her friend confessed to me that she was desperate and frustrated out not being able to reach the ecstasy. And she was apparently commenting on feeling strongly tempted to finding herself a lover who knew how to make her have one. To me this was astonishing, as all of this time I thought we were having great sex and that she felt ok. At no point did she complained or let me know something was bothering her or making her feel dissatisfied. Not a word! Which leaves me confused, since she knows all the love an care I've tried to put into the relationship. Please don't misunderstand me. I've been waiting to getting married many years. I'm in my early forties and she just turned thirty nine! None of us has had a love relationship before, which was one of the things we shared so much as having in common. We loved each other deeply and we were really united, sharing almost everything. I just don't know what went wrong or what did I do to hurt or dissapoint her. And at no moment did I tried to control her, manipulate her or restrict her unduly, much less treat her as my possession. In fact, she is the one who was almost absolutely possessive of me, checking my every move, which I loved as I thought this was out love and out of fear of someone else winning my heart. And my giving her expensive gifts was done out mere love for her, because I wanted her to feel happy and joyous. I wanted to motivate her by giving her special things so that she could more comfor tably feel as my wife. And it is not my intention to promote my ego, but I think I've really put all of me into making her feel happy, because when you love, nothing is too big you can't achieve; nothing is too difficult that you can't solve and nothing is too far away you cannot reach, just for the one you love! That's how I felt! Deeply, madly and blindly in love!! I wanted her to feel happy, blessed and fulfilled to the limit! I did it out of love! What hurts me is, that knowing her that I'm capable of anything for her and that every single thing she says I've always take seriously and listen carefully, she did not have the gesture of telling me that lack of orgasms was driving her insane! Had she told me, I would had inmediately move, investigate and purchase all kinds of books, information and specialists to teach me the way to make my woman orgasm. She could have given me a break, a chance at least! Why the first thing she thought of was getting herself another man? I make sure I'm fit and groomed and shaved and clean all of the time, so that she feels satisfied and proud of me and in love with me. Why the need to cheat? I romance her intensely all of the time! I'm an extremely passionate husband. She can tell! Why did she allowed herself to be seduced like that! When I learned of her dissatisfaction, I inmediately saw the sexologyst and she explained many things to me I didn't know. And yes, it is exactly right I didn't know what the G-Spot inside a woman's vagina was, and what the squirting orgasm was and the proper fingering technique used to provoke this wonderful orgasms! Had I known, I wouldn't had neglected given that to my wife, in the first place! I purchased all the dvd's the sexologyst suggested me and I watched them and saw the incre dible squirting orgasm that drives a woman insane of pleasure. She told me that surely that is what that other man is giving to my wife. And when a man knows how to give this to a woman, she becomes addicted to him and hardly lets him go. But what bothers me the most is that you don't need a large sized penis or last thirty minutes. It's only using your fingers on the G-Spot what causes this spectacularly marve lous gushing reaction that drives a woman beyond the limit. Any man can do it! It is very simple! Why did she not herself bothered in investigating a little more before turning to the cheating option, that now has ruined our beautiful, happy marriage? Why not think before acting? She probably fell pray to sweet-talk seduction of that guy and fell in love with him. That's what it is! Thinking no one would ever find. But thanks God for not letting her get away with it! Why women will not tell their husbands their problem, particularly when they know they have a man who listens, cares and understands? I think the answer is that the more good a man is, the easier to abuse him and play dirty on him! And that is why I definitely want to finish the relationship. She had no justifications for acting like that. It all was going too well and now this... She acted irresponsibly! At no point have I given her reasons to complain or doubt my integrity with her.

Wife cheating on me due sexual dissatisfaction

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"is that apparently she was frequently complaining in front of them of being deeply dissatisfied sexually for not being experiencing orgasms. Her friend confessed to me that she was desperate and frustrated out not being able to reach the ecstasy. And she was apparently commenting on feeling strongly tempted to finding herself a lover who knew how to make her have one. To me this was astonishing, as all of this time I thought we were having great sex and that she felt ok. At no point did she complained or let me know something was bothering her or making her feel dissatisfied. Not a word! Which leaves me confused," Well, allow me to un-confuse you: WAKE UP! [slap-slap-slap!] STOP BEING SO GULLIBLE! She was just 'cleverly' preparing the ground to ensure her friends wouldn't judge her (appropriately) harshly for her shoddy decision to have her cake and eat it. She's undoubtedly the type who isn't *comfortable* with being happy and comfortable, it's not their comfort zone so it makes them feel like things are somehow WRONG and they have to mess it up in order to be back in a state and situation they know how to handle and live with. Look at her brother's actings-out and NUFF SAID. There WASN'T any so-called sexual dissatisfaction, but it was an excuse she knew you (because of your sexual pride and insecurity) would swallow, focus on and readily take part-blame and feel guilty over. Because if you feel however much responsible, you'll WHAT NOW? That's right - instantly forgive and not end the marriage (meaning, they'll get away with it scott-free). Half the time there doesn't even NEED to be a problem in the marriage and it's merely that they believe you love them soooo much, sooo unconditionally, that basically you're so nice BECAUSE YOU'RE DESPERATE (something your give-give-give behaviour confirmed and reinforced) that they could do literally *anything* and you wouldn't DARE reject them. It's fine to be 'so nice'. In fact, it's a show of strength. But not to those types. They're only nice IF THEY'RE NEEDY/DESPERATE, ergo... You should only give-give-give if you're simultaneously seeing THEM give-give-give in response. This drivel about sexual dissatisfaction is classic, textbook, cheater B*LLSH*T ...*and* actually very flattering to you for the simple fact of it being THE ONLY EXCUSE SHE COULD POSSIBLY THINK OF THAT MIGHT CARRY ANY PLAUSIBILITY IN YOURS (AND THOSE FRIENDS';) EYES. Think about it - they have no way of arguing and being disapproving with her for what she's done because your sex-life wasn't anything they could witness for themselves. If it wasn't going to be that old chestnut then, any of the other, myriad, blame-shifting, culpability- and guilt-avoiding excuses cheaters come out with, rather than simply admitting that everything was perfectly fine (or any little creases perfectly capable of being ironed out) as then reveals on their behalf the TRUE reason: 'I have personality and/or emotional issues'. Got it? Stop paying good money to so-called experts who are happy (ker-ching ker-ching!) to take full financial advantage of your typical male ignorance- and insecurity-based gullibility by teaching you so-called tricks to make a happy, lasting marriage. For starters, most women don't even NEED to climax; it's MEN for whom climaxing is the be-all-and-end-all of the sex act. Those sorts of purely bonus-type tricks should be learned on-the-job. Because you went in wallet-first, you attracted in the first place someone with issues, as creates/compounds such things as material greed, over-entitlement, over-security and abject selfishness to point of (in the context of a society of two) pure evil - a take-take-take and 'Scr*w you, I've got you safely where I want you!' merchant. You were at the time so desperate to find The One, that you tried to shoehorn her into the role. Yes, you managed to pack her in, *with* her conning agreement, but - look now: she's finally burst out with the pressure of it (i.e. couldn't keep living up to its standards). That simple. She was *not* your soulmate. True Soulmates don't ever do anything that mentally cruel and devastating to you. FACT. Got that as well?

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