Should we break up?
Hello. So I've been in this relationship for almost 4 years. It was my first real relationship and its all I've really known. It's been really rocky lately, but this story is from my downer point of view so it is not all negative. I just don't feel wanted anymore. They never want to invite me to hang out with friends, doesn't mention me anytime. And when we are together, we do all the boring stuff, never anything fun. They talk to a lot of people on the side and I always try to confront them but it never goes anywhere. I don't think anything on the side is serious. I've grown used to all these stupid things. Its just their personality, moves on to new side baes a lot.. It is really hard to let go, from all this it seems like I should break up with them but I don't know how. I'll definitely be heart broken, I'm just sick of their shit. I've tried to confront numerous issues multiple times, but its not exactly getting better, its just me getting used to it. I do have a lot of fun with them besides these negative things. One of the main reasons why i'm still here. Anyone have any opinions?
hey... i've been in this situation before with my first boyfriend...i personally think you should move on.. that person doesnt love you or care about you...if they loved you there would be no side baes...i know alot of people in relationships and when your in a relationship (a healthy one) everyone would know about you, their friends and family would know about you...i know how hard it is to let go because my first bf and i were on and off for four years and and at times i still find myself thinking about him but i know he didnt treat me like i deserved to be treated...every woman deserves to be treated like a queen and every man deserves to be treated like a king. if they are not treating you as such then they are not the one and you dont have to put up with anybody's shit..they are only treating you like that because you are letting them...i think what you need is time to figure yourself out and learn how to appreciate, respect and love yourself because if you dont then who will...people can sense when someone is weak and your person seems like the tyoe of person to take advantage of those people...dont love them more then you love yourself.....i've been through all of this before and im in the process of self love...dont think you wont ever find someone who will love you for you and treat you better than you think you are supposed to be treated.. i really believe that there is somebody out there for everybody and that person you are with is not the person for you...i hope that helps and im sorry for any mistakes..i also hope you choose whats best for you..
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