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This recurring situation that I can't escape..

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Okay so I'm a freshman in college and there's this girl in my dorm whom I'm interested in. After I started talking to her (like probably 4 or 5 months ago) I instantly knew I had feelings for her. We talked and bonded for maybe a month or so before I found out she was interested in another guy. It looked like they were hooking up so I confessed how I felt and she said she had no clue I liked her lol.. Anyway, to make a long story short, the other guy wasnt into her and now they're just friends. Ever since then we've gotten really really close, but I've been friendzoned pretty hard. She knows I really like her but she doesn't care, she just really likes being friends with me and we talk all the time. I tried giving us some space, but after awhile of not talking we went right back to normal. I've tried changing my style, I think I'm a fairly attractive guy lol, but she still just sees me as a good friend. Honestly I wouldn't have a a problem with this, but it's been extremely stressful to just be friends.. I love being friends with her and I definitely wouldn't want to jeopardize that but I feel like I'm in this limbo that I just can't escape. I wish she could just see me as more than a friend because we just vibe so well together and I'm really into her. Any advice on how I can win her over/convince her to give me a chance? I don't want to come off as desperate but idk how much longer I can handle being in this friendzone..

This recurring situation that I can't escape..

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I think that you should just move on. You can't force anyone to like you and "convincing" her to like you could quickly become annoying. You've already told her how you feel so I think the best thing you can do is move on, even though it may be difficult, and leave her be, maybe even stop talking to her for a while if you think that will help you move on. You might even find that as soon as you leave, she'll start to miss you and want to be with you. Although, I wouldn't hold my breathe for that because you need to think about yourself and how you feel. I'm not saying to stop being friends though, just take a break from her and you'll find that you think about her less and less everyday, you might even find out things you don't like about her, or things that make you realize your relationship wouldn't have worked in the long run. This is coming from a girl who has been friend zoned before and is now happily moved on. Good luck to you!

This recurring situation that I can't escape..

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There is two things you could do, and I probably shouldn't tell you this, but unfortunately it's true! #1 You can show another girl more attention. So sad to say this, but it's the way our minds work. If she sees you showing another girl attention, it will make her feel jealous that the attention she was getting is now given to someone else. She'll also question what that girl has that she doesn't have, why is that girl worthy of your attention. HOWEVER, realize that is a "game" and you might get her, but you might not keep her. #2- the healthy answer is to walk away. You like her now, but feelings change and when you move on a better girl will come along. That may not be the answer you want to hear, but we've all been there. Just take all of that attention you give her and put it into you. Don't change who you are, be you! Best of luck!

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