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Cheated and now im pregnant..

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Other advice Iv been cheating on my bf who is currently in prison and now iv fell pregnant! My mans been in there for 3 years now and I have been faithful the whole time but I met up with a guy Iv known for 16 years and we ended up having sex one day when i was feeling depressed and half drunk from the night before as it was the weekend. I should probably say now that I was feeling so crap after being in a depression for ages due to being lonely etc.... So anyway, weve been having sex for nearly two months now and Im pregnant. Im 5 weeks already and I dont know what the hell to do or think or anything!!
I love my man and I feel so bad that I cheated at all but I needed that attention. I was really lonely... 3 years is a very long time to be so alone... Iv always wanted a baby... I didnt think I could conceive so easily as I have had problems in previous relationships where I was trying and trying but never got pregnant. Iv also had a couple of miscarriages.
Its like Iv been given the thing in the world I want the most but at the cost of the best relationship I could have with my man.
As for the father, well hes with someone too and to be perfectly honest, I dont want him like that so Il be bringing my baby up as a single mum, although he would contribute in his half arsed way like way too many men do... so Im stuck...
I really dont know what to do for the best for me. This is one of those situations where I have royally messed up but If I punish myself just for cheating I might end up regretting my choice for the rest of my life...
What do I do to work this out. Please tell me what you think. x

Cheated and now im pregnant..

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Sounds like you can't not go through with the pregnancy to be honest you have wanted for a while and you have had miscarriages too, so the only thing you can really do is talk to your boyfriend your gonna have to be honest and just see what happens. How long has he left in prison? Everyone has needs and when your down you have to do things for yourself to pick you back up, and if he can't stand by you as you have for him then single parenting is hard but still worth it and you still have a future ahead of you its just a blank canvas starting with you and your baby! Talk to him though and explain may have to do it in several steps though as at first he may just be angry and won't see past that but don't give up straight away is all I can suggest

Cheated and now im pregnant..

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Hi, seems like a very tough situation to be in. How long does your partner have left in prison? How long has your relationship been in its entirety?

My advice would be to talk to your man, he might be mad/angry/frustrated but understanding may come with time, and the fact you've stayed loyal for 3 years says a lot about the way you care for the relationship. A preganancy would be a hard thing to hide or even delay in telling, I think if I was in your situation , I would tell your man as soon as you can and then prepare on looking after yourself and the wee one who will be so lucky to have you as a mum. And hopefully with time and frequent contact your man can accept the situation and you guys can move forward as a couple.

All the best.

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