.Recently i havent met him from many months may be about 8 months or More but i couldnt forget his face.My bf loves me to core and my family deeply wants us to marry.He supports me and my siblings in studies financially as well ( my father is not alive and i have no job right now).I think that there is very lil chance that his best friend will accept my marriage proposal becoz he is very sincere in his frdshp with my bf.However he is a poor but hardworking guy.But i am unable to resist myself.i am unable to forget his face.even i have the fear of losing the diamond like bf as well if i get rejectd from his best frd.what should i do in such a situation? I dun wana lose from both sides .Should i discuss this scenario with my bf face to face or his best friend through facebook (bcoz i hav no othr source fo contact him)
.A very mature and detailed reply expected.A lot confused after a serious relationship of two years heading to marriage.
THEN Should i tell my bf about my atraction and he may talk to his frd bcoz he cares a lot abt me and always want me to be happy forever (save for profesional jealousy/competition among men offcourse ) .. OR i should directly contact that person on fb and propose him while asking him not to tell abt me contacting u to my bf OR asking about the opinion of that person from a fake acct about the whole scenario while not disclosing my identity ? (The doubt about the second last option is that if that guy told my bf he ll take me as a cheatr and hs chances of accepting me again get nill, am i right? While in first option he may endorse me for being true and revealing my feelings for that guy in the very start) what u say
The point is that you were ready to cast aside a fine man for this pretty, "poor but hard working" guy. You know very little about him - except that he's cute.
All this shows you are not ready for marriage to anyone. Your heart is not settled down. It is easily distracted by a "cute, poor but hard working" guy.
Re-think your marriage proposal. It does not sound like you are in love with him.
I liked the advice of person who said u shud pray against temptation.Yes i am a religous person and God really helps.
You were scheming and trying to figure out how you could make something happen with this guy. Re-read your own posts!
Again, I will say: you are not ready to be married.
Praying MAY help, but maturity, restraint and humbleness is needed, too.
I am an idealist and my bf is totally perfect ! Even i admit before that he is not one percent less than what i want, there was no lack in him,just my crush/temptation urges me to find what is far .I want to marry him and he to me.Uptil now i have strong urge to marry him. Fighting against temptations and gettin a bit more mature is an issue.I want to cover the lapse.But he is a gem and he thinks I am the bezt gal in the world.I hope i come up to his expectationsz
Because marriage means you can be selfless and put your partners needs before your own, because you love them that much! If you really loved your boyfriend you wouldn't use him for his money and lie to him about trying to cheat on him. The only reason it didn't happen was because this other guy said no!
Why tell your boyfriend? Because it is the right thing to do. So he can make a judgment on who he really is marrying, not be duped into marrying a lie. Because you love him enough to know he deserves better! Then to be used and lied to. Wow. I really hope he figures out who you really are before he goes before God and vows his life to you. And I pray either you grow up or you don't have any kids with this guy. You don't treat people like this, just throw them away because someone has pretty eyes? Do you u understand that? Where did you learn to value such materialistic things? The heart is what matters, do you even know what that means, virtue? Integrity?
Secondly i m willing to return him everything it he wants,but the truth is : he wont ever take , because he knows me and my intentions very well. Money is the least imp thing in my life though beauty is my weakness and i admit that.
I asked him not to tell his frd but i am afraid if he told his frd and he then told him about those fb messages, what will happen ? Will he remain with me?
Its one day since all this happnd but when i txtd and called to chek whether he reached his home town safely He dint txt or accept my call, he changed his fb relationship status to single last night . My frds say he has written this on purpose to make u worry..i read on a website that leave him alone for 30 days to help him grow cold and take cool decisions,running after never helps..thats why i am totally silent from every mode of contact and offline on fb now.
BUT i am really worried that he doesnt talk to his frd about this and he doesnt tell him about those messages/indirect proposal,actually i didnt proposed rather asked that if such situation happend what would be his reaction? So i am so afraid now,God save me please. I am totally over that crush and i love my bf whole heartedly and i never ever cheated him before in our two year relation -please i need one chance Goddd
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