Personal problem & what to do about it?
First and foremost, before i get any links to psychology websites or articles or -whatever, I'm religious.I try to base my conduct off the bible, what it has set for me, and try to avoid what it clearly tells me to avoid.
I've had one problem thats been.. Thats been a huge wall in my spiritual progression.
I .. Masturbate.And ,although not frequently,also view pornography.
I know for a fact the bible does Not condone this sort of conduct.I will not disclose my religion for reasons.
Its been an ongoing battle but i have no back up-- i have not told anyone.
It might seem trivial to some people but for me it is a major source of grief for me,considering i really do try to live what i consider Morally.It is also the image most people have of me and i dont want to break that image- it feels like i'm letting them down, and also like i am a hypocrite.
I avoid certain media, i avoid cursing, iv avoided drugs and iv avoided .. a number of things.
Again, i dont want people telling me its "healthy" or "ok" and "heres this behavioral scientist who.."
No.I just want advice on how to overcome what i consider a poisonous, addictive habit-- just how you might give advice to a smoker who wants to stop smoking.
What should i do? If youv ever had an addictive habit what did You do to overcome it?
Get married to a religous and sincere gal !
Thank you for the advice, but
1. I'm 17
2.I'm a 'gal'
Pornography addiction doesn't just happen to guys.I think it could be as a result of my upbringing.. but either way, i need advice on how to Stop it.surely you havent had to overcome an addiction before?
If it is not all the time then I would say it is not a habit. And whether you want to look at it as a natural human drive or one God instilled in us, it is in our nature to have a sex drive, to want to procreate. I, personally, do not believe there is anything wrong with you. None of us are perfect and that is why God forgives us and loves us.
Since your religious beliefs, whether I agree with them or not, make you feel this way, I would say talk to your pastor? Or whoever your religious leader is? I can almost Garuntee they have struggled with the same thing. Maybe look at it as a challenge God has placed in front of you to conquer. But do not hate yourself because God instilled in you a need to want to have babies. Just take on the challenge to resist I guess?
I'm not sure how else to reconcile your nature with your religion. As I am not a religious person, I would say you are putting undue guilt and shame upon yourself, and that is not okay. You are a young woman with a lot to decide and figure out the next few years. If your faith is what is going to get you through that and to a healthy adulthood, you will have to accept you are human and by no means perfect. Just like everyone.
Oh k so a 17 yr gal hmm then i would say YOU and you can now fight against thiz temptation - just recall urself that its bad habit and i am not a bad girl so i should avoid it , also watch less films ( odr than porn ) , start good books reading , indulge in healthy activities, play sports, or mind games, exercise gym , start cooking new stuff etc- change ur day schedule make a new time table and it will help-and the most imp thing, i repeat, your habit wil decrease with age even if u dont do anything to stop it.
I m amms and i posted with alias "meee" - telling just to clear confusion ok