Only one from church small group not invited to wedding
I am so upset, a couple at my church and in my small group got married and had this wedding and invited everyone from my small group except me. I know this because I saw pictures of everyone from my small group at the wedding. This was after I talked to my pastor about whether it was open invite bc I didnt get an invitation and he said it was invitation only and that I wasnt the only one not invited. But looking at the pictures I see that isnt true. So then I messaged him and told him I saw everyone from small group that goes regurarly there. He listed a few names of people that weren't invited, but they don't come very often (with the exception of this one guy and this girl who just started coming a few few months ago). That doesnt matter to me because I have been going regularly, Im a girl and have been going for a long time and I was the only one out of the group of girls that goes regurarly that isnt new that was not invited. That is what makes me feel like there is something wrong with me because I was the only girlone out of the core group not invited, like do they have something against me or does somebody else in the group have something against me and they wanted them there and didnt want them feeling uncomfortable around me? I dont know. But I was the only girl who has been coming a year that attends regurarly that wasn't invited. I had specifically asked him before the wedding if there were other people that go regurarly to small group that weren't invited and he said a whole bunch. One guy and one new person isn't a whole bunch. Why would he say this? And why was I the only girl that attends regurarly not invited? And he had access to the guest list to know who was invited? Why would he know the guest list? He was officiating the wedding, but still, does the officiant usually know the guest list?
HI- What is the purpose of this small meeting? How close are you to the couple getting married?
You mention "I was the only girl out of the core group not invited like do they have something against me or does somebody else in the group have something against me and they wanted them there and didn't want them feeling uncomfortable around me?" Do you feel this may have been the reason? Is there anyone in the group that you don't get along with?
Send the couple a card and wish them well.
That would be the Christian thing to do. I'm surprised your pastor didn't suggest that.
Eventually, you will find out why you were not invited, but in the meantime, be the bigger person and let this go.
some people in life, wont like you thats just the way it is somem people do some dont
christian thing would be to forgive and move on