My boyfriend never wants to have sex
So my boyfriend NEVER wants to have sex! Or touch me. Or anything physical. I've heard so many excuses and I've tried to explain that it's really creating a distance between us now. I've tried to figure out if it's because we had a baby, if he still has feelings for his ex but I just can't figure it out.
We have been together for 2 years, with a short break after our son was born. I suffered with pnd and struggled to be the family he wanted. We have been living together for 1 year and have slept together roughly 7 times. He has initiated 2 of these 7 times.
Please someone help me out here, it's driving me insane as all I want is to feel close to him again. I miss the intamacy we once had!!
I was in this exact same situation about a year and half ago with my husband except the roles were reversed and I was the one never wanted it. This went on for A little over a year. I was suffering from depression. Nothing in particular set it off, I was just depressed. I never wanted to have sex so I never initiated anything every now and then when he did tried I would just give in because I knew he needed it. Because of this we are now separated because he found somebody else to talk to.
So coming from the other perspective, try to talk to him don't get upset or angry, just talk. See if he knows why. Because I honestly didn't. I had a van went to the gynecologist and left crying because of my results came back fine. The doctor even said she's never had a patient crying because everything was OK but I was just praying something was wrong and there was a reason. I just couls not control not having a libido. He could be suffering from the same thing or it could be something else but the best way to work through it is to talk. now I've got on the proper medication and I could turn it off . Lol I hope this helps in some ways.
Thank you! That kind of helped.
Has your relationship always been like this or did it change?
I've been in a relationship where I never wanted to have sex but that was because I felt so much resentment towards my partner I couldn't stand to be close to him.
I have the same situation as NEEDINGANSWERS has. Before our son had been born my husband and I did it regularly with great delight, but now I am absolutely unwilling to have sex. Everything is all right. I don't see the reason. I would also recommend you, POLARBEARSATEME, to talk to your boyfriend. Maybe he has a reason and will explain it to you. The problem must be solved. But what about my situation, the dialogue will not help to solute it. Anyway, women are dependent on hormones stronger than men and I think his problem is not coming from a health condition.