ANNIEM - Jun 21 2016 at 16:58
I am at the end of my tether, I am married to a man who has sulked for 50 years recently he has got much worse, his sulks now last for weeks sometimes months, I have left him to stew, tried to get him talking again, nothing works, what if anything can I do, any suggestions welcome
Well from what I get out of what you have told me you guys are an older couple and he has been in and out of these down spins and it's been this way for a long time,and leaving it be don't work and talkn about it does not bring him out of it and you obviously love him enough to wanna help him and it seems its effecting how you feel and its most likely maken you unhappy as well to see the one you love in pain.
The fast solution is to leave the negativity all together and try to find someone who loves you and will communicate with you when you go through tough times but you may feel regret with your new partner about leaving the old one to regain your own happiness the easy way is not always easy nothing is.
Or he my have some kind of social problem even with you even after all these years some men or people in general have a hard time talkn face to face or even on the phone to people when talkn about what hurts inside that makes them feel they way they do,you can try writing and hiding a journal were he would find it and explain that you can talk or communicate through this journal to one another to help understand what you can do to help him on his level.
Or you can even try to see a counselor but from what I get out of this he won't want to go if you two have trouble talkn so try the journal thing and maybe the consoling thing after he opens up enough to try.
At the end of all this it seems your at the point of no return you been through to much to leave and even if you wanted to no one wants to be alone and feel regret for leaving and where would you start to look for a new I understand all that but you also have one life and no one wants to be miserable forever tryn to mend the unmendable..
Sorry for your struggle but if there is to be a fix the key to knowing what to do lies in communication..good fortune to your efforts please respond back if this helps..your cyber friend Bob..
Married close to 50 years myself, and I think Bob hit the nail on the head but it's tough to do. The journal idea is excellent, I have a hubby who can explain himself through writing that I'd never have thought he'd do and it's only happened twice but that was an eye opener. Perhaps yours will do the same. Good luck, if the journal idea doesn't pan out, then seriously think about getting out, we don't have much time left to find happiness but the relief will be worth it I'm sure. I shouldn't talk, I'm stuck in my own thoughts but perhaps a lightbulb moment will happen.