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Relationship decisions...

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In my past I dated a horrible guy for a year and half and than I broke up with him and rebounded to an exboyfriend (Kyle). Kyle is a great guy that loves me but I couldn't reciprocate the same way. I tried to but ultimately I begun to be attracted to others guys. I then broke up with him because I realized my strong feelings for another guy (Dave). A week later I was dating that Dave. It was refreshing to be with shim since we both were not looking for anything serious. Also this was during a technical training in the military so I knew we would be going our separate ways shortly. He was motivated, independent, and I felt confident that once he graduated, that I can be single and finally free of my past. But unfortunately, I started to like another guy, Matt. I never mentioned to him I was dating Dave mostly because it wasn't anything serious. I was also looking forward to Dave graduating. I could just about taste the freedom I would feel. And I did. Much like how I did right before I started dating Kyle. For just a brief moment. Then I started to involve myself with Matt. He was sweet, shy, smart, funny, thoughtful, athletic -- everything that I want. We had a great time dating in Tech School and he even came to visit me in my hometown in California... and just a couple days before he left I told him about how I dated Dave just a week before dating him. And then that created a lot of trust issues. His imagine of me changed completed. Not only does my past haunts but him as well. I have no freedom from my bad choices-- not my bad choice for dating that horrible guy, to Kyle, to Dave, to my current situation... Not only is my past an issue for us. But communication is difficult. He has strong opinions while I am more open-minded and interested in everyone's perspective. He isn't very trusting in nature while I enjoy meeting new people. I feel that our difference can help us both grow together... but sometimes I feel just tied down. Like I have no freedom and I haven't for so long. I haven't been independent and I starting to doubt myself. My confidence is low... But I don't know. It's hard. I'm sure you all have been in difficult relationship decisions. Have you had an similar experience? What did you do? Or just generally, do you have a recommendation?

Relationship decisions...

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Have you ever consider open relationships or open friends with benefits? Both allow you to date more than one person and not get tied down. I've had a few open fwbs and it worked out great, I was able to date 3 guys at around the same time, I didnt have to choose to let one go for the other. It was just when I was free and whoever was free we'd go on a nice date and have sex after. All party should be "safe" and use protection of course. As for your situation. This of Dave as a new job whos looking to hire but sees on ur resume that you keep jumping from one job to another. He'll worry that you won't commit to his job as well, so why should he hire you? Unless u go in telling the job that ur only working part time and u have other jobs, or else they wont feel secure about your past experience. If you feel like you still want to say with dave, talk to him about open relationships. That or dump him and start new. Go out into the dating world when u see a guy you're into let him know you just got out of a relationship and ur not looking for anything serious, more of just a FWB relationship. If he agrees, then u can talk about the rules, if you're both allowed to see other people, if ur going to see eachother atleast once a week. if ur going to be eachothers main hookup and side hookup are just when ur main is busy. You'll probly have a better time and come off less like a indecisive girl who cant commit.

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