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Our 3 years relationship is over because my boyfriend's parents don't accept me

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and we had all this plans for our future, getting married and such after i finished with nursing school. I am 25 years old and my boyfriend is 27. I am half vietnamese and half korean and my boyfriend is full korean. He recently told his dad about me and his dad doesn't accept me and already judging me because my family isn't wealthy and I am not korean. He has never met me once and will not accept me. At first, it was only a small issue for us but I realize that my boyfriend depends on his dad, he works for his dad so if he was to choose me over his parents, he would lose everything as his dad said he will disown my boyfriend if he continues on this relationship. My boyfriend told me there isn't anything he could do even though he loves me and wants to marry me. I know there will be resentment between us if my boyfriend was to choose me over his parents because then he will have nothing left except me. I called off this relationship because i know it won't move forward and its going to hurt me more, I am extremely devastated and heartbroken as my boyfriend was very good to me and we were good for each other even though we had our ups and downs. My boyfriend has also made it clear that this relationship won't move forward. I don't now what to do, but my guts is telling me that I'm making the right decision for calling off the relationship, but my boyfriend isn't making this easier for us, he's in denial and it tears me apart seeing him cry. I'm lost and confused and can't stand the pain and i'm considering seeing a psychologist to help me get through this. I keep replaying the time i last spent with him in my head and it kills me. Should i continue to fight this battle or is it just a lose lose situation?

Our 3 years relationship is over because my boyfriend's parents don't accept me

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You're doing the right thing. You're a strong, independent, female who is doing what needs to be done to be able to support urself and not live off your parents. While hes 2 years older and still pretty much living off daddy. If he can't stand up for you now, he's never going to stand up for you. Even if he chose to be with you, he'll have to find a job, and a guy like him, he probly don't have any other experience in life than working for his dad, he'll hate working for other ppl and actually have to do work. Hes not willing to sacrifice his comfortable life for the woman he loves, no wonder his father doesn't respect him and orders him around. His father probly feels his son doesn't make good decisions on his own because he is so weak, that only his dad can make the best decision for him. IF he were to stand up to his dad and say hes willing to go out there and get a job and make his own money and not eat out of his dads hands maybe his dad will be proud of him and see that hes a grown man and have some respect for him. His dad won't disown him, especially if hes the only child or the first born male. Even if he does, it'll only last for a short period of time. But over all hes not the right guy for you, cut your loses now. You know theres no future, so you can either chose to keep being with him and waste more of your youth (which is time u can be building a new relationship with someone better) or move on now and start looking for someone who does want a future with you. Think of it as a job, if this job has no room for growth or promotion, but its comfortable for now. Would you chose to stay in this job until you get fired or would you rather look for a new job that you'll be able to one day be the CEO? Which ever you choose just remember you'll need to put in time to get a promotion. So if you get fired and wasted all that time, you'll now have to start all over at a new job and work your way up, which you could of already started there a year ago.

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