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Whether to pursue a relationship or not

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I feel as though I am in an awkward situation and I don't know where to go. There is this girl that I talk with everyday constantly and I have grown very close with her. I have gotten to the point where I wish to have a relationship with her but I don't know if I should.

I have just recently graduated highschool and she will be entering her sophomore year of high school. We are only three years apart in age but I feel like it may be a factor that would discourage the relationship. Also we are best friends and she told one of my friends that she wasn't sure about a relationship because she's afraid that I won't want to be with her in a few months and if we break up she will lose me forever. However I can't tell if she wants to be with me or not. It's a hard situation with details I do not wish to share. She was my date to prom and we have done many activities together and im falling for her real bad.

Today she told me however that she got asked out on a date by another guy and when I asked if she said yes, she refused to give me a direct answer. I am not sure if whether I should say something or just let her be and respect her.

Whether to pursue a relationship or not

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The man who invited her doesn't actually exist. She only want to know your reactions. Continue to be close to her as her friend and care for her as her boyfriend.. If she reciprocates your actions with equal reactions then whats the problem? Sometimes traditional words to make a relationship official is not needed to make it official. . Actions is louder than those words. GoodLuck!!!

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I thank you for your kind words and advice. Sadly the man who asked is a real person however I don't know if she was using that like you had said. I got the courage to tell her I like her and and that she shouldn't go on a date with some other guy however I never got a full response but it was leaning more towards a no. She messaged my friend saying she got upset and that our age difference refuses to let her form any relationship with me other than friends.

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oh, I'm sad to know theres age difference to consider.. For now just enjoy her company as I can see you are better friends than more than friendship level. You can still love her honestly and care for her with the acceptance that you will be friends forever. Its time for you to move on.. And wait for someone God has assigned to you. Just believe its more than better . Be Happy!!!

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