Dealing with multiple affairs
My wife has had 4 Affairs. This last one has taken a toll. To make a long story short. I found out thru a text message she left her phone in the car. Said she was tired of being broke, had not loved me in years. After talking this over she had a revelation. Wanted to make it work said she was wrong just got caught up. Even went as far as getting a tattoo with my name. We were making love every day sometimes 2/3 times a day. I had bought her a car, i was getting her hair and nails done every 2 weeks. This is the thing. She never stopped seeing this man. She would come home late, take off early. I decided I had had enough. She agreed to move out of State. I told her if we are going to make this work you need to be honest and cut it off do not take this with us, I your gonna continue talking to him what's the point. Everything went beautifully with the move she transferred making $5 more I got a better job making $4 more an hour. I end up finding out She has been taking to him for 7 months even sent him money. He stopped calling her 3mo ago now She tells me it's over now. She's wondering why I'm upset and what to leave. We have been married 25 years. I know it's my fault I should have been stronger and left. But now it I'm sorry I can't do anything about it now. Move on I'm human things happen in life. I'm not going to let you Badger me what's done is done.
"she tells me it's over now" Really?? Your wife is a serial cheater who can F**k you to get a car, hair/needs done not for you FOR HIM! Cheating on you ..4 times says she has no respect for you and your marriage. Yes it is your fault by accepting the role of her "Fool"
Find a fool cheat on his head over and over and over, over again..."she wondering why your upset and want to leave" I can understanding trying ton work things out the first time she betrayed you and the marriage But the 2nd,3rd, 4th !!! After 25 years if not now WHEN will you put on you BiG BOY PANTS ON ??????She says it's over now why would you trust and believe ANYTHING COMING OUT OF HER MOUTH-(or what she allowed in her mouth just- saying)
We're all human, your wife is the worst human being-an adulterer. If she has not loved you for years-what is the point of continuing the marriage?
Lied to you once, shame on her, lied to you 4 times, shame on you. Move on buddy... shamed on you that you let a her did that to you multiple times.
This is really tough for you as you still love her but the reality is that she wants someone else but also wants the security of your marriage. She is a serial cheater. It doesn't mean that your relationship is over, but you'd need to renegotiate the terms.
Could you both be in a relationship where you see other people? If so then the relationship could still be passionate and satisfying but where you both want different things then it may be time to move on.
Its not weakness its possession. Nikki Minajs song ANACONDA is about the power people can have over others. Manipulation.
HOCUS POCUS with Bette Midler is a movie that reflects the powers of possession.
Eat spicy food when you feel she has power over you, it will clear your senses.
Use insence after being around her.
Use sage to purify your home. But if you have been there for 25 years, I would start fresh somewhere else if you can. Or else, empty it as much as possible and clean it right out. Try to neutralize the energy in the home.
If you feel too old to start over now.... your not... years down the road after this awareness... you might be.
Dont spend to much more time thinking about it all. You only have one life to live. Dont blame her, its a form of nature that has taken her over. Also, remember the true ways to a womans heart when you start a new relationship. I would start by defining. What is love? How does Love feel? What do I love? Literally... make notes. Make art!!!