I'm not sure if my friend is joking or not?
So my friend and I joke around a lot and pretend to insult eachother. But yesterday, I couldn't really tell if we were playfighting or not because we were "playfightingly" posting pictures of us making weird faces on instagram. I actually thought she wouldn't send the picture but she shared it with everyone. :P Which annoyed me, because I thought we ere just play-fighting.
And today, I said I didn't want to facetime her and she kind of thought I was making up excuses to not facetime her (i was) but I kept on declining her calls and it kind of went downhill from that. Here's an example:
Aren't any other friends online? Face time them!!!
Why me ?!
I'm never gonna talk to you again
I still thought she was joking bout that but the jokes were getting a little choppy. I then said that I was too busy watching an anime, which I WAS ACTUALLY wrapped up in, and annoyed with her calling and texting me so often, then she replied:
I swear I'm never gonna talk to u on this account again by bye
And I'm just like 'wut the heck' so I stupidly started sending her selfie pictures she took of herself because I was irritated of what happened yesterday and how she kept on taking pics of me through facetime and sending them to me. Then she said...
You're literally making me cry
lol I can't tell If u r jkin or no
Sometimes I cant
ANd then she sent me a picture of her crying. And I thought it was funny and that she was crying, because she wouldn't have done that if she was actually crying right?!
I'm never talking to u again
And I stupidly replied:
I don't know if its thing, but i laugh at sad parts in movies and also right now.
Fineeee facetime for one minute only though
U were joking right
ANd then she didn't reply which she always replies and I'm just sitting at my desk not sure of whether she was joking or not, mad, or not. I have to see her almost every day cause we are on a swim team and swim 6 times a week. And tomorrow is one of them. I think if i text her again she won't reply and I'll get a taste of my own medicine.
She's a really nice and fun friend but she has some features that just ANNOY ME TO DEATH.
If she was offended, what do i do and how do i see when she's not joking anymore. (don't make me say all these cheesy things to her either) we r good friends, on the same swim team, and do everything in the swim meets together (walk around together, eat, watch others swim their races, play with our little swim buddies together, practically everything. ANd we carpool often.)
This is all confusing me. I know the guy is usually confused by the girl but its really hard to tell if you are texting.
Your friend sounds like shes trying to manipulate and control You a bit.
She sounds a bit pushy and forceful.
If You like hanging out with her Thats fine, but defo dont let her guilt You into anything
Or push You around.
Okay, I will keep that in mind. Thanks. :]
All this back and forth stuff could ruin your friendship.
Stop trying to have a relationship on-line! You are right, you CAN'T always figure out what a person means by text.
IN PERSON, FACE TO FACE say "Hey, all this got silly and out of hand. Let's just start over."
When we first start anything, even a friendship, its like starting with a blank piece of paper.
We each write on it, with our words and actions... and we build on it with time.
Its like rolling a ball in one direction... it continues to go the direction you rolled it in all on its own.
It can end up somewhere you didn't want it go.
This is what has happened with you and your friend.
I think that one of the most powerful things in life is TRUTH.
I want you to share these truths in this letter to you with your friend.
So that you can change the playing field completely. There is power in leaving a problem, but there is more power in solving one.
Improving BOTH of your lives, not just the time you share together.
Another very powerful force... improving life.
So... how do we do this?
1. By understanding the paper and ball theories.
2. By defining ourselves
3. Defining what friendship is and what do friends do together
Make a couple of posters. In the center of one write your name. Then all around it write words and phrases that describe who you are. What kind of person you are. Qualities. Characteristics. Everything that describes your IDENTITY. When we know ourselves, we are strong. Having this piece of artwork in front of you will also guide you... to stay you... and not be anything contradictory. You are intelligent. But the conversation i saw... was lacking in intelligence. You are also creative, fun, kind.... etc... If you see these reminders of who you truly are every day... then you wont be what you are not. So build yourself, teach yourself to be anything you wish to be. Don't forget to put PRINCESS and all the words that describe what a princess is.
Make another poster with the word FRIENDSHIP or be more creative and draw images of friendship.... and then put words and phrases all over it that describe what FRIENDSHIP IS and collect lots of ideas on it that describe the activities that friends do together. Friends don't joke around like that. They have better things to do, you just forgot. Make these posters and never stop building them recreating them and you'll never forget again.
If you have these two posters in your life... you will be so much happier, stronger, focused. You will have better experiences.