Lost in the game of love
So it started a few years ago I met this girl after I left my wife and on the first date we hit it off instantly. We spent a good part of the week together doing random stuff for fun. After a few weeks I introduced my kids to her and her family. It was great for a while after a year I found the one I could never be with out so I asked her to marry me.
After a few months of happiness I found her on her phone more and more but never wanting to say why she said its her phone and I had no Business asking about it.thats when things went south we still planed on a wedding but disagreed a lot .
Well to make a long story short we broke up and got back to gether a few times. After a year of being single and not losing touch with her and always there for the kids when they needed me. So now she is single again I have been talking to her again and we have spoken very little about dating again but it has been brought up.one day while hanging out she told me that there were some ex's she will remain friends with and continue to visit. I think in order to start fresh all exs should go except for the kids parents. She says she has changed and in some ways I can see but I just don't know how to proceed with this. So I'm here looking for some advice
Hi JR3885, I'm not very old, but not very young either. I agree with the part that you shouldn't keep contact with ex's. I, myself, I have done that, keep in contact with ex's or just some 'flows' and I know it's not good. But if she is ready to start another relationship and with that I mean a real one, she will stop with that. That's what I think. You keep the ex's, because you feel you need to have them, to or feel less lonely or feel desired or you just can't let go and want to see you are wanted. I'm not sure if i'm 100% right, I know I am in some cases. I just think it's best for you to move on.
I agree with FIFI1234. If she's attracted to you and wants you she will let you know.Unfortunately you are now her mangina, a shoulder to cry on and faithful friend. I know as my ex-girlfriend converted me into this whilst I was seeing her so she could move into he next relationship, which she'd already efficiently set up behind my back. So if that's okay for you then carry on, otherwise get the Hell out of there.