All men lie and cheat
SO MY GRANDFATHER, MY DAD, UNCLES AND MY LOSER BOYFRIEND. ALL MEN I'VE KNOWN HAVE CHEATED. MY ISSUE IS, WHY WON'T YOU BE HONEST WITH ME? WHY TRY TO MAKE ME SEEM LIKE I'M NUTS?
MY BOYFRIEND TELLS ME I'M MAKING THIS STUFF UP IN MY HEAD. YEA HE HAS WOMEN WHO CALLS HIM AND SEND HIM NAKED PICS BUT THEIR CRAZY HE SAYS.
JUST BECAUSE HE OWNS HIS OWN BUSINESS AND HE HAS TALK TO PEOPLE (WOMEN) ALL THE TIME, HE REALLY WANTS E TO BELIEVE HE NOT CHEATING.
OK, OK FINE THE DIRTY TEXT MESSAGES, THEM SENDING NAKED PICS.
EXPLAIN THE VIDEO OF THIS OLD LADY SUCKING (WHAT LOOKS LIKE HIS) A PENIS?
OH, HE CLAIMS IT'S NOT HIM. BUT ITS ON UR PHONE FOOL.
OK, OK EXPLAIN A VIDEO OF THIS GIRL SUCKING A PENIS ON YOUR BOAT, AND THAT IT LOOKS LIKE YOUR HAIRY LEGS AND I HEARD YOUR VOICE CLEARLY?
YET AGAIN HE CLAIMS IM MAKING A BIG DEAL OUT OF NOTHING. IT'S NOT HIM HE KEEPS CLAIMING.
MY THING IS THIS, IM OVER CRYING I'M OVER THE LIES. JUST WHY CAN'T MEN TELL THE TRUTH AND LET THE WOMEN START THE HEALING PROCESS? TELL US THE TRUTH WHEN WE ASK, IF IT HURTS US, TRUST ME IT HURTS EVEN MORE WHEN WE KNOW YOU CHEATEN BUT TRY TO MAKE US LOOK STUPID.
IF WE FORGIVE OR IF NOT, SET US FREE FROM THE LIES.
I have a buddy who is friends with a lot of women, many of which who are attractive. Like with your boyfriend, for whatever reason women seem to always send him nude pictures, and joke around with him, and hug him and shit like that.
He seems loyal enough to his girlfriend, and I guess at first impression I don't think he is the type of guy who would cheat on his girlfriend. But then, from time to time I still find myself wondering if he has been completely faithful to her.
Thing is, it depends on whether you feel you have enough evidence to prove to yourself that he cheated. And, if you conclude that he has cheated, what does that mean for you, now? You say the guy in the video on his phone sounded like him, and his legs looked like the legs of the guy. Maybe it was, maybe it wasn't - you will have to decide that. Maybe you are uncomfortable already with him just receiving nude pictures from these other women he talks to?
I can't give you a good reason for why people in general cheat. I think it depends on the person. Likewise, I can't explain why some people are attracted to idiotpeople.
There are men who do not cheat however there are many who do as well as woman. And Yes they lie, their Golden Rule" NEVER EVER ADMIT ANYTHING EVEN IF SEEN WITH THE NAKED EYE." The bigger question is WHY ARE YOU STILL THERE!!! He will never tell you the truth because you're still there living with the LIE!
Stop waiting for something you don't need nor have a use for. If you want to stop the hurt-LEAVE THE CHEATER, Woman who accept being disrespect make themselves look stupid. Rather than "Set us free from the lie"
Rather than "Set us free from the lie: how about free yourself from this marriage.
I know how painful this is for you but if you have found so much evidence then it is probably true, he is cheating on you. I have been cheated on and I've cheated on people I've been with.
I don't know how helpful this is but for me it was down to having low self-esteem. As young men we spend every waking moment dreaming of having no-strings sex with women and that never really happened with me. As we age we suddenly notice the opportunities and think "well it's just sex, no attachment". This is especially the case if the man is in a secure love relationship. It is all down to boosting our little boy egos.
I know this sounds odd but it doesn't mean that your man doesn't love you and want to spend the rest of his days with you. Most men can make an easy distinction between sex and love. I think it comes from the fact that it's easy for men to orgasm but doesn't have the intensity that women feel. For women it often a much deeper, intimate and more intense experience.
Breaking up is an option but from my experience nearly all my friends have had sex with someone else whilst married, and they're still together and happy - except the ones who have given up on sex and intimacy a long time ago in their relationships. If that is where you guys are at then you have a whole other set of problems to sort.
So what can you do with this advice? Well, it's up to you to decide if it is going to define your relationship. You have to have a serious conversation where you ask and give complete honesty and talk about your future together. If you are confident and strong with him he will understand the boundaries that you both set and work within them.
You need to rebuild trust and that starts with telling the truth. The reality is that it's tearing him up inside as well...god knows it did me and the stress put me in hospital needing heart surgery. You don't want that.
I hope this helps.