My boyfriend of 15 years has a drink problem
MABLE - Jul 13 2016 at 22:22
I have been with my bf for 15 years we have 3 lovely kids but he drinks at night every night if he dosnt he can't sleep . He has a very stressful job and obviously having 3 kids is stressful to bit I manage through and I don't understand why he has to drink I worked out it costs about £80 a week and money is not great as it is . My mum is a recovering alcohol and my bf dad died of alcoholism so I hate drink to any degree and think he should to . I have tried many times to talk to him about it but just ends up in a big argument he is a fab guy really good but the drinking has to stop he even looks unhealthy now ! Please someone advise would be fab !! Thankyou for taking the time to read this xxxx
You understand what an alcoholic is about having experienced it first hand with your Mum. While you may recognise the symptoms, your BF can't, because he's an addict. If he needs alcohol to help him sleep and to handle his work stress, then he has a major problem with it.
He needs to realise that he has a disease but he further has to get on the same rocky road that your Mum's on and that's called recovery. He has to do this himself and you can't help him and your arguments are the result of your concern for him and of you trying to assist him. The one hard fact that you need to understand is that alcoholism hurts and damages those closet to the person suffering from it and this is what you are experiencing now. I'm sorry, but think back to your Mum and the things you may have experienced then.
Importantly, you have 3 children and you need to consider their well being. Your BF may be functioning now but he has to deal with his issue himself and that alone could take years to achieve.
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