My co-worker is abusing me
MART - Jul 15 2016 at 23:48
I have been working for a couple of months for a company which I really enjoy working for and I am looking forward to developing my skills within it. For the first week one girl used to flatter me and then make sexual advances to me couple of times. Because her behaviour and all she said about me to other people (even when I was around) was quite blunt and sometimes annoying, I decided not to reply to what she used to say. But one day she crossed the border and she started to offend me by disrespecting my nationality. Still I was very calm and did not let her feel neither winner nor loser in this silly game. Weeks were flying by... and then one day she declared among all of our staff that she has a husband and she loves him and only him. To be honest I did not really care if she has somebody or not but she made it in such an annoying way that even all our staff was staggered. When somebody asked that he or she has not seen her with her husband in the past and even in the staff house, she replied that if somebody does not believe then one may go on her facebook page and see the photos. I have not even checked that but my good staff friends told me the photos she made on facebook are with some fake guy just to make me angry. And then few weeks later she went all out! She entered our work place with a child on her arms claiming thst it is hers. What happened next was that the boss our company got really nervous about the atmosphere in our work place and decided to invite real parents to our kitchen and show to everybody that the child that she hold for these two minutes were not her. She was really angry about it and then i started to realise that something is wrong. Two days later it turned out that our manager has entaiced her to do this to me (probably for money). At the moment nobody can prove her or the manager anything and therefore I am afraid to be still abused liek that. The funny thing is that I have never talked to her through these couple of months and she is really jealous when she sees me talking to other people even to men. Another funny thing is that everybody in the kitchen knows that she is a real snake (sorry for that word :) but nobody, absolutely nobody can do anything with this.
Sorry for a very long piece of writing. Please advise me what should I do?
The best thing you can do, given the circumstances, is to move on and look for another job if you're not inclined to go above her head, and her manager's head, to complain. You have every right to sue for discrimination and victimization, but going by your post, that would only create further issues for you. The fact that you haven't reacted to your co workers actions and jibes, tells us what sort of a person you are and you need to consider working for a company who actually appreciates you and your skills.
I do not want to change my job. I find my other co-workers very nice and friendly and if I stay I will probably be promoted to other position. This fact also annoys the manager and the girl (if not making them furious). I used to work for many companies before and I have a scope of the industry I am in for 5 years now. The thing is that the boss of our company is supporting me and he really wants to give me a chance here in his company but the manager is destroying everything. Sometimes I have have a feeling for the boss is afraid of the manager a little bit, sadly he can't take any action against him to prove anything.
Thank you for your answer anyway you helped me a lot. Thanks.