Mbbs or marriage
I am 24 , by time i I start my mbbs I will be 25 or 26 ...i did masters in an arts subject becoz i could not aford mbbs but my bf of two yrs loves me insanely and we can pay our mbbs bills together- however my boyfriend wants to get married soon and after hearing my dream he got angry and said ok fulfil your wish we will get married after complting ur mbbs- becoz he think our marital life and sexual life after marriage will be at stake- but along wid my mbbs I want to get married soon and give birth to my baby - and cant delay mbbs as well becoz already i am Late and have 2 apply as a non traditional student. I m persuading him to marry early and let me start my mbbs as well but what if he doesnt agree?
After my mbbs i will be 31 or 32 he will be 35 which is i think too late for marriage in asian culture also problems such as late pregnancy etc arise - my mom also wants me to marry early and then pursue my studies
If your boyfriend/future husband does really love you then he will support YOUR decisions completely. If you want to wait to get married so you can continue school then wait and if he does not agree with you then perhaps he is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. A relationship is about teamwork and sacrifices but you should never sacrifice what you want to do because of how someone else might feel about it.
Thanks john .. Update: He said u can study after marriage but i ll go abroad and build my business till u complete studies.
Now the thing is : my personal and career goals are equally important to me ! And to be honest i cant live withoiut him after marriage ! I love him very much and i want to give him time ( along with my studies) . Though he believes that not possible.
So what do u think ? I have guessed that coming up wid this topic to my bf has no effect , his views are same , but i am unable to take this out of my mind as well! I dont know how to keep my mind in peace.I am taking too much stress becoz of this. Should i act peaceful till marg and after that take admission wherever he settles ( with his consent) while till that let my heart burning ? I thought to take academy classes to clear my concepts right now, even if my plan of Mbbs changes i will have quite knowlege in hand.
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