This may sound silly but i would use an advise that would help me out and i am am writing this because i badly want to get over some one as soon as i can and heal my heart and be happy.
i would like to get some advise on how to get over a guy i once loved and he decided to reject me for some one else.
any advise will be highly appreciated. i am tired of worrying, i wana move on and be HAPPY with myself.
FORGETTING SARAH MARSHAL. This is a movie that helped me let go of the idea of someone. The idea of him being wonderful. The idea of my loss. The IDEA. Its always an idea that has us connect with someone... not often who they actually are. Especially if you thought it would work out and it didn't. You dont love him. Hes not nice. You are in love with the IDEA of him. So let IT go.
THE BEST THING I NEVER HAD. Is a song by Beyonce. The video is amazing, just saw it last night.
IF I WERE A BOY
Also Beyonce songs... that are very powerful. Put them on your playlist!!
That takes care of the past. Where you were walking in circles.
Now you need to form your future. Direct your mind somewhere better. Walking upwards and onwards.
I WAS HERE... another BEYONCE song.... that I think is one of THE MOST powerful... in that it makes us stop and look at our lives, detach ourselves from the reality that we are in, and see... that we have time to DO SOMETHING. DO something that makes a difference in the world. There are all kinds of realities to experience and be part of in this world. (So don't limit yourself to just this boy that doesn't deserve all your attention... no one does... there is so much more to life)
JUSTIN BEIBERS PURPOSE CD has a lot more messages than what it seems on the surface. When he says YOU GIVE ME PURPOSE. He isn't just saying that the relationship gives him purpose... he is emphasizing the IMPORTANCE and POWER that PURPOSE has on our lives.
Do some research... find some songs that help you support your direction... who you want to be... how you want to think...how you want to live... and make your playlists!!
I suggest looking into TORI KELLY, BEYONCE, KESHA, NEYO, PHARRELL, STEVIE WONDER, LIONEL RICHIE, MARIA CAREY, CHER, ....just to name a few!!!
Start watching films looking at the characters... being inspired... how do you want to behave, act like, be a little like. And who dont you want to be like.
In YOUR story... you don't want to be the girl that spends years obsessed with someone that doesn't care about you. Then fall for another guy because he made yo feel good about yourself... when its time that YOU feel good about YOU.
In all of your research of film and music.... notice who you like... in terms of character... It is noticing the person that IS inside you.
You want to be HAPPY. Then love yourself. Make a poster for yourself with your picture or your name written on it... and then post words all around it that DEFINE who you are. Use words, phrases, examples, quotes.... anything that will reflect to you... yourself. Before you know it.. all of these things WILL BE a STRONG part of you.
It will be art that you feel so HAPPY about.
Projects and experiences one after another after another after another after another... THIS IS LIFE.
These are the opportunities for you to feel good about yourself.
There are billions of things you could do. There are a few mentioned here already!! Have fun. Build yourself. One project one experience at a time.
Your love is my Drug. By Keshia... is so true... Love is addictive.
We ALL just need to find the things that we love MORE in life.
I hope its you.
I hope its the cool things that you can do.
MERCY it is so far from silly and I'm glad you asked..the world suffers from the same thing you are.
That is why so many films and music are about it... to help.
The fact that you know what you need.... means you are super strong and intelligent.
Its not knowing what we need... or choosing to ignore the question... that we run into trouble.
I personally believe that all love... here and past.. is a gift....an experience to be grateful for.
So you dont have to hate him. That wouldnt be honest. You just have to move forward.
what kind of advise is this?
please next time dont reply to a thread if u have no advise, i am not 12 that i am looking for attention. leave problems to those who have maturity in handling them,
I will continue to proceed with what I believe is best.
It's up to you whether or not you find value....in life over all.
None of us are that different from a 12 year old....it's a gift to be forever young.
I think your angry....because you wish you could be free. But you have created your own reality...that your stuck in.
These artists I mentioned....they create from their experience..their heart...they go through the same things you are....and use creativity to heal themselves and anyone that connects to their art.
I hope you find peace.
Our ability to manage ourselves
Not choosing 'more grown up' things to do.