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im 23 years old and have been with my husband for over a year and just got married in april having many issues in my relationship he has such a major rage issue that even when im not trying to push his buttons he snaps and ends up beating me weve been together for 1 1/2 years are arguments are mainly about sex and finances i thought when we got married the abuse would stop and sex would be more however nothing did so shortly after marriage i ended up engaging in a conversation about a threesome which i did say no to and a month ago i was caught talking to another man even though there has been no infedelity on my end he believes that what i did was cheating even though it was nothing more than getting advice i was beat to days he smashed my phone and took my wedding band that i paid for
i want my husband to pay more attention to me ive always said that and now that i messed up this bad the fights are worse than before he still denies me the need for intimacy and has knock me out twice unresponsive. i have a little girl from previous relationship who loves him and hes great to her im just afraid that it will scar her its only happened once in front of her or while she sleeps
ive been very unhappy for a little while now and dont know how to get out i dont believe in divorse ive lost all his trust due to this and i fear ill never get it back i feel that there is no love there at all im scared of my own husband and yet im still here maybe the fear of loneliness or the fear of rejection i do know it will take a little while to have his trust but to take my ring i dont know what hurts more him beating me or not having my ring after i screwed up
the police did nothing last month when i called them for the first time all he got was harrassment charge which he is forcing me to pay due to my screw up is it my fault do u deserve this he tells me i do he calls me a bitch and a whore i dont know

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Your fella has some issues! A man never raises a hand to a woman What has happened in your life to make that kind of behaviour expectable? To keep returning for more? Somewhere along the line you have this notion that the abuse your suffering is run of the mill.
May I suggest seeking professional help for yourself? Find the route cause of why you feel people can use you as a punch bag? I'm not going to lead you with the multitude of possibilities of why this may occur as each case is unique and you need to find the reason in your own mind but rest assured no creature on this planet needs to be someone's anger release. You didn't mention the age of your child but this could pass to them in so many ways, the feeling of helplessness watching someone she loves dearly being knocked about could have major consequences on there life too in so many ways.
Please, I urge you, seek advise, there are many different therapies about that could help you see the wood for the trees so to speak, your doctor will be able to advise you better than I, for your own sake as well as your child's.
I won't tell you to leave the fella as if it were that clean cut it would be done already, hence the notion of it being you that needs help more urgently (fella definitely needs help but he's not the one in danger and he will need to want the help) but whilst in therapy you will realise that you, and any other person, do not need or deserve a life of abuse.

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What she didn't tell everyone is she was the violent one first. She knew he was an abused child and proceeded to hit him anyways when he told her to never hit him in the beginning. She didn't.mention she accused hit of beating her child when he didn't because she mistook an odd colored shit stain as a mark. She doesn't mention she lies about who she talks to or the fact that she hides it. There is more to this story. She also doesn't mention how many times he stopped her from killing himself or that he puts himself last every day just to get shit on.

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She also didn't me thingies she gave him herpes and he had to make a life choice before they dated only to have her go behind his back

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Either way, I rest my case, both parties need professional help

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