Extended family problems
I have a big problem. My sister and her son lives with me. I'm divorced and my two children and mother are with me. My sister lost her job 5 years ago. I was okay with it at first because family helps each other. But, that was five years ago. She is still unemployed. She doesn't help keep the house clean. She doesn't drive. She tells me she can't get to work. I tell her to take the bus. I also tell her she can get a job at a store she can walk to. She spends all day playing video games. I'm so stressed. I can't tell her to move because of my mother. I'm tired of supporting her. She is 37 years old. I'm 52 years old. I shouldn't be supporting a 37 year old woman. What can I do?
I would sit your mom down and have a serious conversation with her about your sister. If she can't find a job, then maybe she can go take up a class and learn a new skill. Did she pay for these video games, because if they are your children's, then i would take them away from her, or hide them.
You need to make it less comfortable for her, and your mom needs to side with you and you and your mom need to sit your sister down and tell her that she has 30 days to figure out what she plans on doing for the rest of her life, because not helping around the house, not working and playing video games like a teenager is not working.
Tell your mom that your sister either gets her shit together, or she has to leave. It may be a difficult thing to do because she's your sister, but your sister is taking advantage of you, and it sounds like your mom is ignoring the issue or enabling her to where she feels like she doesn't have to work. I hope it all works for you. Good luck