It's been two weeks of no contact and I really want him back! So complicated!
I'm sorry if this is too long, I'll try and keep it short. Me and my boyfriend were going out for 7 months. We got on so so well! We had been friends before we started seeing each other and we had a real connection. Things started to get a bit rocky over the last month or so and to be honest we were only meeting up once or twice a month for sex. We were still in contact and would talk on the phone but we really weren't seeing much of each other. He is scared of relationships but he always said how happy I made him and that he would commit someday but wanted to take it slow. I held on for a while hoping that maybe things would change and it was pretty upsetting. My family hating seeing my cry and so miserable so they messaged him on Facebook telling me to leave me alone. He told me it would be best if he walked away and it was good between us while it lasted. He then blocked me
My cousin was quite rude to him to be honest and my mum told him to block me. He text me on whatsapp saying he treated me really badly and I'll realise that Then it'll be time to talk if I still want to. My mum and him were still messaging on Facebook at this point and he said he was so sorry, he wishes he could make it up to me and if there was anything he could do she was to let him know. My mum told him if he could make me happy then she wouldn't stand in his way. He told her how much he cared about me and that he would have a serious think about it. He said he can't deny how well we get on and it would make my mum smile if she saw it, which is true. He Kept saying how much he cared about me and he wants to make it right.
I told him before we started no contact that I still wanted to friends and he said he would like that too. Also, he would maybe speak to me in a few weeks time. He doesn't want to particularly stop speaking to me for a while but he says it's the right thing to do. He told my mum "as far as she's concerned, we're not speaking at the minute" which I took to mean he hasn't fallen out with me completely.
Do do you think we have a chance at all? I really really want to give us another go!! I DID NOT want my family involved at all but they didn't see why he couldn't be my boyfriend. I explained that he is scared of relationships. He told me not to give them a hard time for messaging him because they done they right thing. Also, he does drink quite a lot. Not to the scale of an alcoholic but he says he needs to make a decision with a clear head. I'm just so confused.
May I ask your ages?
I wonder, since your mother has gotten involved in all this - and trying to solve issues that YOU should be handling.
Look - why are you having to WORK so hard to make a guy like you? Relationships are not supposed to be that way! Besides, if he "drinks alot" then he has problems. Do you want to have that to fight over, too?
There should be kindness, respect and attention from a guy who wants to date you. You must set standards and be confident that someday a nice honorable young man will come along who is worthy of your attention. You should not have to beg and cry over a guy who plays games. (THESE are things mothers should teach their daughters)
I am 26 and he is 31. I wanted to solve it myself but my mum decided to go behind my back and do it for me because she thought I wouldn't. I had told her what I was going to do and she refused to listen. I don't doubt that he does care about me but like he said himself, he has a terrible way of showing it. It's hard to just switch off my feelings for someone I fell so hard for.