way girls are they are differnt then guys.. is this logical or is it the way i fi have a question reguarding me and my wifes sexual attration for one another if you could give me some insight it would be greatly appreciated..... ok wheel beacuse i think that if you love someone then stuff like that should turn you on guy or girl correct i dont know i feel like shes not attracted towards me is not going to work for us if she doesnt find me attractive when im naked will she find someone who is???? please help me understand if this is normal or not..... please thanks so much
What OTHER things do you do to seduce her during the day? Flowers? Dinner? Hugs and kisses? Presents? Taking a shower together - or is you just laying there the way you expect her to get turned on?
Do you understand what I am suggesting?
Show him what you like and make him wait until you are ready. You can do this in seductive, fun, loving ways, too.
She ain't wrong. Do some research. You'll see just how important it is to women that you connect emotionally throughout the day. Have you asked her what she wants? In or out of bed so she'll respond better? Some women may get aroused visually, but I'd say that's the exception, not the rule. Do some research, talk to her openly and honestly, and make an effort. Good luck!
Foreplay - for the woman - starts the minute you both get out of bed in the morning. (Soz, Rich, but it's that or finding yourself a nice boyfriend instead, LOL.) I call it Foreforeplay (because it does what it says on the tin). It's basically just showing her that ONCE the sh*g happens, it's an extension, or culmination if you like, of how much you prize her.... puts the act into reassuring and flattering context, in other words... to the extent where it's so much more than 'just a sh*g'...more a 'finale' of the entire performance that preceded it.
'Performance' can be either one, knock-out display or lots of little touches throughout that day or week which *together* make a sum total of knock-out... or a mix-'n-match.
I wouldn't ask, though, be that about what turns her on or what needs doing...makes it all a bit clinical, takes all the mystery and excitement out of it as well as makes any upped wooing efforts of yours feel like a contrived pre-payment endeavour. Say it in affectionate touch and proactive offers around the house *without* having to be asked - "just because" (- if she asks... the inference being, because you're my world so, why wouldn't I).
You get into the habit of doing that for long enough and, not only will you see dividends all over the shop but - THEN you're talking reaching the stage where she only has to look at you to 'get a stiffie'!
Seriously, though - on behalf of 'the team', you're very welcome and, best of luck (pluck)! But, yes, that's right, you don't seem to have a problem per se, just an engaging challenge in response to a sign that you've still a ways to go with your wooing workload, which, actually, although never stops, at least pays amazing dividends to-suit.
New mantra: No perks without work.
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