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Please need relationship advise

Posted by
RICH123456564321
on Aug 16 2016 at 04:37
Member since: 16 August 2016
Relationship advice forum category advice forum category en i see her naked it turns me on im a guy and i find her attractive but if i am naked even just laying next to her naked for a while she says its normal for her to not be attracted towards me.. beacuse she's a girl and thats the

way girls are they are differnt then guys.. is this logical or is it the way i fi have a question reguarding me and my wifes sexual attration for one another if you could give me some insight it would be greatly appreciated..... ok wheel beacuse i think that if you love someone then stuff like that should turn you on guy or girl correct i dont know i feel like shes not attracted towards me is not going to work for us if she doesnt find me attractive when im naked will she find someone who is???? please help me understand if this is normal or not..... please thanks so much

Reply from
SUSIEDQQ
on Aug 16 2016 at 15:43
Member since: 27 December 2013
There are SO many ways that women get turned on - and just you laying there buck naked might not be one of them by itself.

What OTHER things do you do to seduce her during the day? Flowers? Dinner? Hugs and kisses? Presents? Taking a shower together - or is you just laying there the way you expect her to get turned on?

Do you understand what I am suggesting?

Reply from
JELLYBEAN26
on Aug 16 2016 at 21:13
Member since: 16 August 2016
I'm very happily married, my husband is my world and he's ready to go just lying naked next to me, it's not the same for me, I need more from him and I would never look elsewhere. I'm attracted to him but I don't have a physical response just from lying next to him
Reply from
SUSIEDQQ
on Aug 16 2016 at 21:23
Member since: 27 December 2013
Jelly - sometimes you have to TEACH men what turns you on. Don't let him think that he can just jump on . . .

Show him what you like and make him wait until you are ready. You can do this in seductive, fun, loving ways, too.

Reply from
MAMABEAR
on Aug 16 2016 at 23:52
Member since: 06 March 2016
It's biology, and a whole lot more. Men are very visual. They get aroused mainly from what they see. Women? Whole different ball game. And that should not be any surprise to you... Women are emotional creatures (as a general rule) and crave connection and intimacy. Which is NOT usually sex, but the stuff that leads to sex. A very wise (very elderly) woman once gave me some amazing advice. She said, "Men don't really need foreplay. But for women? Foreplay is everything. And everything can be foreplay. Doing the dishes without being asked can be foreplay. Washing her hair while she soaks in the tub can be foreplay. Rubbing her feet or back can be foreplay. But any man that just hops into bed, expecting a woman to be "excited" at the naked male form, will be sadly disappointed. As will his wife.".

She ain't wrong. Do some research. You'll see just how important it is to women that you connect emotionally throughout the day. Have you asked her what she wants? In or out of bed so she'll respond better? Some women may get aroused visually, but I'd say that's the exception, not the rule. Do some research, talk to her openly and honestly, and make an effort. Good luck!

Reply from
SOULMATE (moderator)
on Aug 17 2016 at 15:01
Member since: 19 August 2014
Aye. (Nicely put, you three. :-))

Foreplay - for the woman - starts the minute you both get out of bed in the morning. (Soz, Rich, but it's that or finding yourself a nice boyfriend instead, LOL.) I call it Foreforeplay (because it does what it says on the tin). It's basically just showing her that ONCE the sh*g happens, it's an extension, or culmination if you like, of how much you prize her.... puts the act into reassuring and flattering context, in other words... to the extent where it's so much more than 'just a sh*g'...more a 'finale' of the entire performance that preceded it.

'Performance' can be either one, knock-out display or lots of little touches throughout that day or week which *together* make a sum total of knock-out... or a mix-'n-match.

I wouldn't ask, though, be that about what turns her on or what needs doing...makes it all a bit clinical, takes all the mystery and excitement out of it as well as makes any upped wooing efforts of yours feel like a contrived pre-payment endeavour. Say it in affectionate touch and proactive offers around the house *without* having to be asked - "just because" (- if she asks... the inference being, because you're my world so, why wouldn't I).

You get into the habit of doing that for long enough and, not only will you see dividends all over the shop but - THEN you're talking reaching the stage where she only has to look at you to 'get a stiffie'!

Reply from
RICH123456564321
on Aug 18 2016 at 07:40
Member since: 16 August 2016
THANKS YES I DO BUY HER FLOWERS AND WE GO OUT AS OFTEN AS WE CAN GET OUT I JUST DIDNT KNOW HOW TO TAKE HER SAYINGG THAT I DIDNT KNOW IF SHE WAS GOING TO LOOK ELSEWHERE FOR THAT OR NOT BUT I GET THE JUST OF WHAT ALL OF YOU ARE SAYING I GUESS IM JUST LOOKING TO DEEP INTO THOSE WORDS........ THANKS FOR HELPING ME UNDERSTAND NOW LOOKING AT THE WHOLE SITUATION HER SAYING THAT ISNT AS BAD AS I THOUGHT .......I GUESS IT JUST TOOK ME LOOKING AT IT THREW AN OUTSIDERS PERSPECTIVE TO SEE THE ENTIRE PICTURE THANKS GUYS FOR THE ADVISE I REALLY DO APPRECIATE IT....
Reply from
SOULMATE (moderator)
on Aug 19 2016 at 13:37
Member since: 19 August 2014
WHAAAAT? SPEAK UP - WE CAN'T 'EAR YA! ;-D

Seriously, though - on behalf of 'the team', you're very welcome and, best of luck (pluck)! :-) But, yes, that's right, you don't seem to have a problem per se, just an engaging challenge in response to a sign that you've still a ways to go with your wooing workload, which, actually, although never stops, at least pays amazing dividends to-suit.

New mantra: No perks without work.

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