Lost in my marriage / relationship
Still marriage but I fear not for long. My wife and I been together for 9years married for 4years. Everything was going fine until couple nights ago I did not respect her decision to stay home and went out to watch football. Long story short she felt disrespected which I can understand and have now excuse. No cheating or abuse or anything like that, I just ignored her feeling about going out in this particular night. The dirvorce conversation came about when she told me the next night that she going to in her words "do her". Divorce has come up in the past but with counseling and communications we got through it. This time seems worst since in her tone and words it sounds like she going to be unfaithful. Now she may not be but the benefit of the doubt is gone. She says if we do stay together it would be base on how I deal with what's to come, making reference to going out and not caring how it effects me. I fear the marriage is over and even though I did not respect her decision and stay home I feel this course of action she seems to be taking is extreme and I don't think I should endure that kind of mental abuse. This just happened a couple of days ago, have slept and my two biggest fear is getting a divorce to the person I love the most and being alone.
Then you need to sit down with and tell her that will never go out again with out her. Tell her you mean it and will do things with her from this day forward. Things that she wants to do. Give assurance that you really love her and will be the best husband ever. Tell her you don't want a divorce. Counciling works if you make it work. Before you start the conversation go out and by her some beautiful flowers.
That first sentence is all botched up. Anyway I think you know what I meant. Flowers make a a big impression. I just hope that there's someway to salvage your marriage.