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How do I get back on friendly terms with ex lover?

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I have been involved with a Gemini man I am still in love with for about 7 months. About a month ago he became distant when I was angry with him for hitting up other women online. He is busy his friend says. I text this man I love and he says he has priorities. he is too distant and very much an air sign with his moon in Aquarius.

A much older friend said he does not look at me in a good way. This senior Scorpio may be hating too because the man she wants is rarely where we all go and told me he is not into her like she wants. My older friend is in love with someone she can not date. I dated my Gemini. Her words seems so vindictive whether they are true or not.

Most of this Geminis shared online messages are short and this goes for other people as well, who ask him why he is not around lately where we often see him. I removed him from my Facebook. I blocked him and his friend recently. This lover was always weird. We slept together quickly. Beyond in a few months that he seemed to care for awhile and was telling me he loved me and I was his queen. This gemini has asked me to never leave him but in true metamorphesis style he has evolved and turned into a winged messenger who has flown away.

He has been disrespectful too trying to grab on my private areas in a public place where this is a straight up no no. It used to be a joke to me but the disrespect got worse. I always kept a distance and loved this person from a distance. We did not get together all the time. I can not cling if I am not with someone every weekend.

After being confronted for Facebook cheating. My Gemini man started treating me like a stranger after I told him not to hit up everyone but me with sexy comments. He ignores me unless he want money or something else. I know I will see him from time to time at the place I go to. I do not want to leave this place. It is for my well being.

This man has always has time to tell one specific female friend how great and beautiful she looks. I never got one beautiful comment online from him. This woman looks no better than me but she is what he denies he always goes for a Latina with long hair and a nice smile. She is younger looking too.

This woman he wants has a seductive look like a few others he lusts for. This guy often told me he likes freaky women. As I observe her photos closer. She appears to be a caretaker type who likely was caring for this man when he had a stroke around the time he says he met her. This man was in a nursing home after he had a bad fall.

I wish he would hook up with his long term female friend already and show his evil half, so this tough looking female my ex-lover wants can let her angry side out lol.. This guy walked out on his ex when she became emotional returned a few times and walked out again. Than he blocked her and moved on.

Recently he told me stay off Facebook because I peeked at his Facebook and told him this friend he likes so much and him should date. I do not feel I encouraged it out of anger. I care about this man and want him to be happy.

If he is moving on let this woman see his true colors if she dates him. I was told I must be on Facebook too and called dummy because I said there are more important things than Facebook. I go on it mostly for the messenger. I want this man back at moments. I do miss the good times we shared. If he is not returning someone else can deal with him. I wanted to be on good terms with him but he is treating me like a stranger. I care about this person and feel they are going into depression and adding to mine.

How do I get back on friendly terms with ex lover?

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I am going to try my best to reply to your thread because it is interesting, but I will say that it is a bit confusing to read.

So the person you describe seems to be really confusing and contradicts himself a lot. Whenever you try to contact him, he says he has priorities and is busy. He said he loved you and asked you to never leave him, but has been talking to other girls, and when you and people you know question him you receive vague responses.

He touches you in public, despite you not liking this, and isn't really respectful about it. He compliments other women, even with you around, but rarely ever compliments you. He said he likes "freaky" women, and has shown interest in his hot female friend, who apparently he has never been with. He left his emotional ex when she needed support, came back, and left again. And cut off any sort of contact with her.

This guy told you not to use Facebook anymore, like he is your Dad, and you are practically giving him hints about which chick to bang next, but he gets defensive whenever you try to give him advice. You were told you should use Facebook and are stupid for not using Facebook...But you already use Facebook anyway? You want someone else to deal with this guy, but also want him back. He won't let you be on good terms with him, and you are letting yourself get depressed over how he feels.

Simply put - and this is based purely off of what you have written here, and nothing else - it sounds like the man you described is not a very good person.

In fact, he just kind of sounds like a player, who changes his scene every time he is found out and flees from the results of his actions.

Maybe the reason why his cute female friend has never fucked him, is because she has known him for so long and realizes he might be an okay friend, but is a terrible boyfriend. Maybe he doesn't even like her that way, but views her as more of a family member, or his constant who gives him his bearings when he changes course frequently in his life and leaves behind lots of people. He doesn't want to damage this girl because he damages everything else, so maybe that is his way of giving back, in his mind. I don't know.

The way you described this guy randomly touching you in public... Well, it's funny you mention that, because I just saw a guy at work who is a big-time player walk up to another coworker's longtime girlfriend and start trying to grab her tits like it was nothing. I knew he slept around, but I didn't know he was so bold about it - her boyfriend actually came along right after he did that. This same guy keeps hitting on a girl I like, despite her disinterest, because she is pretty and is something he can't have.

Players are stupid. They are rarely all that clever, and even if they are eventually leave loose ends. I mean, sometimes guys bounce around because they are unsure what they want, but this guy sounds like a total cheat. And he is determined to live his life his way, and not to let women have any sort of power or equality with him when it comes to sex. This guy is constantly avoiding you now that he has been found out, and you still aren't over him. Don't you think that maybe you should stop, take stock of the situation, and maybe seriously question the types of guys you are dating? Unless, of course, you are happy with your life and the benefits far outweigh the drawbacks.

I would just move on, and try to meet someone different.

How do I get back on friendly terms with ex lover?

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I have mixed feeling because he has given me a mixed vibe. He told I must be on Facebook to know what he is up to and to stay off it lol... He does not want me on Facebook. If he wants his friend I have to accept it. So I encourage it. Let someone else see him for who he truly is. He does get called a player but deniees he is one. The female friend is starting to leave kissy emoticons on his Facebook. They may be more than friends. I blocked it so I will n have to deal with it. My first step in recovery. This man does not seem to consider women as equals and I feel he has anger towards women. I told him this and I refuse to be his victim. This man's false charm, wit, and smiles hooked me. I never had decent parents and my father had similar traits to what I am attracted to, so this may have to do with why I choose the type of men I want.

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