In a happy marriage reopening new wounds
1st off my past so you can understand my present. I was in an abusive relationship that ended 7 years ago. It included physical, mental, and sexual abuise. Lets call him J. I caouggt J cheating on me so many times i stopped counting because i was in so deep in my hell i didnt care. I left him and married my now husband, i'll call him G. We have been together 6 years and have together 1 little boy who is now 11/2. We were happy i am completely in love with him, he knows most of what J did to me and still loves me even though he meet me broken. 3 days ago he recieved a text from a girl saying "i love you" while i was using his phones to which i know the codes and have complete access. I froze and got tense n handed tge phone to him and said why is z sending tou i love you. He said indont know what are you talking about.we got home i put my son in bed and cried in tge laundry room were G found me. We talked, i told him i felt so betraid he knows the pain the scars and the walls i build because of J and i brought them down for him. I didnt want to see any other messages so i didnt wich i now regret i decided to stay and work it out. I dont trust him anymore and all i feem is pain. I cry in silence because i cant tell anyone because they will hate him and i choose to stay. N9w when J was cheating i drove myself crazy were is he who is he texting who is calling. I just vhrcked G phone that mrssage is gone and contact. How do i m9ve on. How do i stop my self from going crazy again, how do i work at this i choose to love him n stay not for our son but because i was happy he is a great man but now i cqnt trust him. I have so many reopened scars from my past. Were can i fond help.
There is only one way to go on without going crazy. Only think of yourself and your son. Whatever you do, do only because it's good for yourself and your son. Anything good for yourself because only you can take care of you. Anything good for your son because you are responsible of him. If you cook and do laundry for your now husband, do it to keep peace. If you are planning to stay, do whatever to keep peace. Do not beg him for love. Love yourself and give love to your son. Do not quarrel with the unfaithful man. Don't waste your pretty mind. Keep your mind occupied. If you're working, focus on work. If you're a stay home mum, focus on yourself and your son, and your daily duties. Read inspirational articles for yourself to stay strong...read and sing with your son.. Keep him happy and cheer yourself up. Be strong and stay strong.
I believe i understand the kind of situation you are in
If you really want your Relationship to continue further, id suggest to have a word with your beloved and do it outside your home. (you dont want kids to know this)
Secondly please try to find out from him if he is in love with another woman
it could be one of his close friends who had sent that text (lets keep our mind open)
Always keep up the faith that you have no matter how bad the things might turn out
Lets hope for the best
I wish you all the best
And as the above post has said be strong
Remember our kids ought to stay out of this