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My 25 year old brother is being harrassed

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Emotional advice Hello,

I don't know where to begin with this one...

My brother is 25 and has been playing in a local, small league football team since he is 14. This football team is run by one of his friends dad, and the team used to be made up of himself and his close friends. But, about 2 years ago, some random, slightly older, men came along and decided to take over the football team (without any invitation or consent from the original manager). These men are convicted criminals (religiously in and out of prison) and seem to get great pleasure from harassing and threatening anyone who doesn't agree with them.

They bully the original mananger, and steal money from both him and the players. An example of their depraved behaviour would be, if my brother misses training on a Wednesday evening because he has been working late, or he's injured, they will bombard him with threats, such as

My 25 year old brother is being harrassed

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Is this an organized league (with official referees and several teams competing) or is this a neighborhood pick-up game?

In any case, the manager and his players need to change leagues ASAP.





My 25 year old brother is being harrassed

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As far as I know, it's quite well organised. They have weekly matches with other teams within the area, but they are not very high up in the league.
They know they need to change, but whatever they do, or whereever they go, these people will follow or will not allow it. They think they own it now. It's like they have quite literally sold their souls to the devil. The main issue here is that these people are violent, my brother seems to think they are capable of murder.

It's something you can't even imagine.

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He should Leave the team ASAP and change his place if possible.Life is more imp than a mere game.Karma will itself work and they will soon be destroyed.But please give emotional support to ur brother and ask him to go out only if very necessary.

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Thanks for your replies.

We have just recently moved house, so moving is not really an option (which is very unfortunate). I have told him to pretend he has moved out, but he said they would still come to the house and they would harass me and my mother, instead. And, he can't change his number either because, again, they will just come to the house.

I think these people just enjoy having control over others. I'm hoping in time they will lose interest in him. And, I agree - I hope these people get what they deserve.

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May be you should inform police about it. And do keep a notice that either they are only humiliating/abusing him emotionally or physical/sexual as well? (God forbid) ... Try to be close to ur bro and ask about it .

Is there anybdy elder at ur home ?

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We have spoken to the police, but nothing can happen unless my brother makes a formal statement (which he isn't prepared to do) and sometimes the police aren't much use. This is one of those situations where maybe "the gang" is more powerful, if you know what I mean.
Also, I should mention, I believe there are 8 of them and they are all related. So, even if one was arrested, and went to prison, we would still have another 6/7 to contend with.
Unfortunately, my mom is a single parent. It's very stressful for her as she sometimes has to pay these guys money to leave my brother alone.

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Why is ur bro not giving formal statmnt? I a m doubtful he is fearful of smthing else- may be they have sexually or physically used him?? Is he trying to hide something?

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He doesn't want to because he is scared of them. I don't think they have hurt him but I know there was one occasion where a knife was held to his throat.

As I said, only 1 or 2 would go to prison and so the others would come after us. And anyway, even if they did go to prison it would only be for a short period. Maybe they would be out in a few months or a year and we would be back in this situation but worse.

My 25 year old brother is being harrassed

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Why is ur bro not giving formal statmnt? I a m doubtful he is fearful of smthing else- may be they have sexually or physically used him?? Is he trying to hide something??

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Knife held to throat?? This is serious attempt to murder case, and u ppl are taking it lightly. What do they want from him now ?

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He will have to give a statement , and you people will hav to leave this city. Nothing is more imp than saving your bros life- befor its too late. (Realise this to your mum and sell this house ASAP) .Also realise your brother that this needs to be done.


If not this.then shift to any society in same city where there is more security ,and nobody can visit you without you peoples permission.But first is best for u people.

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Your brother needs to leave this "team" ASAP.

His membership is putting himself and the family in risk. No "team" is worth that.

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