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Paying parents bill

- Sep 22 2016 at 04:44
Member since: Sep 2016
Relationship advice Hello,

I have an issue I need some advice on that is causing some tension in my marriage. My wife's father is a pastor of a small church and her mother does not work due to health issues. Their income is not very high at all and so for the last 5 or so years we have been paying their cell phone bill. We added them to our plan and just pay it all. About 4-6 months ago the church decided to start giving him an extra $50 a month for his cell phone. He said he would just start paying that money directly to the cell company but has only done it once even though the church has been giving him the money. I'm very upset by this not because we need the money but because I feel it is morally wrong. My wife said they need the money more than us so we just shouldn't worry about it but I feel like he is cheating the church out of money.

What do you all think? Should I just not say anything more about it or express my concerns?

Paying parents bill

- Sep 22 2016 at 09:35
Member since: Jul 2015
Hi- Family should take care of family..Why not consider this as one of those things family does. Since you admit you don't need the money, but you if your resentment is causing you to feel upset which will only manifest into anger in due time-then send him his portion of the bill every month and be up front about it.

Or-just let it go and file it under "Family Taking Care of Family".

Paying parents bill

- Sep 22 2016 at 13:19
Member since: Dec 2013
He should tell the church board that his cell phone bill is being taken care of by a donation from a nice couple (you two!) and that the phone money is not needed.

Really - that's what HE should do. Anything else is deception and downright stealing.

Tell him that he has one month to reveal the arrangement to the church board, or you will let them know about your paying the bill.

Paying parents bill

- Sep 22 2016 at 13:21
Member since: Dec 2013
Just to add . . . your church needs to pay its pastor a living wage. Talk to your church elders about finding ways to compensate ANY pastor who works for your church.

Paying parents bill

- Oct 1 2016 at 05:09
Member since: Oct 2016
talk with your wife

there is no other way to settle a confused mind than to talk it over with the one concern

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