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I am a 34 yr old woman from india, i am living seperately from my husband with no physical relations with him from past 5 years. I meet him sometimes and we have an 8 yr old daughter. I hv been in a sexual relationship with a gentleman fr last 4 years but now its no more. I have recently met a guy and spent two wonderful days with him. I had an instant liking for him. The problem is he is already in love with a married woman without sexual involvement with her.he promises that he will be loyal to me physically till we r together. He is divorced and is seeking a life partner. I dont see any future with him as i am not yet legally divorced but i need a long term loving relationship which is not only sexual but emotional too. We are very much compatible in bed and i have started to built emotions for him..can someone please guide wht should i do?

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First off why are you still married to your husband? Uncomplicate part of your situation and at least divorce your husband.

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Let me restate that. Be legally divorced before you get involved in other complicated affairs.

Whew!

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Think about the things you wrote
1) You're married .... I agree with the post above, uncomplicate that! Sounds like maybe it's time for a divorce since you pretty much are divorced based off your interactions with your husband. I think you should file for the divorce and move on with your life.

2) The man you're sleeping with is in love with a married woman?? You deserve someone who is in love with you! You don't deserve to be a standby to this man until he's able to figure things out. Why would you give yourself emotionally to someone who emotionally invested in a married woman. You deserve better! Move on from this too! This sounds like you're just setting yourself up for failure with this guy because if this guy really wanted to be with you he would jump into a committed relationship with you. Sounds like he wants a life partner but that partner IS NOT you! Or else you two would already be in a committed relationship. I'm sorry if I'm coming off harsh, I'm not trying to do that. I just don't want you to waste any more of your time with this guy who seems to be using you for sex.

3) move on! You need to find a man you are compatible with and who wants similar things in life as you. Keep searching and moving on if these men aren't gonna commit, since that seems to be what you're looking for. Let the men know up front what you want out of a relationship. If they want something else move on before you waste your time. You aren't getting any younger and you deserve to be happy and grow old with someone who wants similar things in life.

Good luck

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Thankyou becky and scopes for your help. Yes i ll surely get out of my marriage legally once i get my own house, i am living with my parents as of now and in our society thr is too much pressure for not taking a divorce even if u stay alone whole life. Anyway i need love and commitment so i ll move out of this. This was somewhere my gut feeling that i should not invest emotionally in this new guy too...i ll try my best to avoid. Thankyou so much !

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This intense physical attraction is difficult to handle...i dnt knw..but love and sex are not seperate entities for me..how can he claim to be sexually loyal to me while being in love with someone else..

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I think BECKY WITH THE GOOD HAIR! Hit the nail on the head. Find someone who really wants you and loves you they're out there. But first things first get that divorce.

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hi feeling lost..
i think you are in search of someone who will love you truly,considering that you always are in a relationship
Shakespeare said: I always feel happy. You know why? Because I dont expect anything from anyone. Expectations always hurt."
human love is not perfect. humans will fail you.
but the Love of God is perfect. God will never fail you
turn on to God

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