I'm moving and I'm extremely scared
KATIE0908 - Sep 27 2016 at 03:38
Hey! I'm going to be moving soon and I'm very nervous. My current school is very small, and there are never any new kids, so I'm lost. When there's typically a new kid, do the current students at the school usually come up to him/her and talk to him/her? I'm not into sports, and I'll probably join clubs a few months in once I'm fully settled, but I don't want to depend on that. I'm very shy, but if someone comes up to me and starts a conversation, I'm very friendly and 100% fine. So yeah, when there's a new kid, do students come up to talk to that new kid and introduce themselves in class or something?i just don't want my last few years of highschool to be ruined because of this move (I'm moving from New York to Florida and I'm a sophomore if that helps at all)
NEVER any new kids? Well, what about kids whom over the summer hols went through or completed having gone through enough personal experiences to finally fill their 'bucketful' and hence will now be returning to school as "New & Improved Me" (or completely re-invented)? And that'd apply to this new school you're headed for, as well...more so, given that it's undoubtedly bigger and more heavily populated. And what if as "New Me", their usual crowd of friends or bestie no longer seem that all-round satisfying or mentally stimulating, meaning, they're looking for someone completely different? Possibly you? Particularly as, coming from "Noo Yoik", you're (contextually-wise) nigh-on a foreigner and therefore exotic and more intriguing than the usual crowd.
You already have a USP (unique selling point) as is known for drawing customers to 'it' rather than having to rely solely on the other way round... your case, the fact you've undergone experiences and met the type of people they've never experienced ("new-stuff-new-stuff-must-have-new-stuff-num-num!!").
Yes, oldies of any 'club' do tend instinctively to know they have to play host in welcoming any newbies, be that during class or recess. But you do first have to be signalling somehow that you're open to being approached. Try smiling a lot or, better yet, just having that faint 'Mona Lisa grin', a facial expression that indicates, "I smile so much that this nowadays is my permanent resting expression...because everything is just fine 'n dandy in my world and I'm perfectly happy to be me!". (People always want summa that, oh aye, for the belief it'll rub off on them.) At the same time, appear engaged and interested in your surroundings and basically everything that's going on around you, including first and foremost its populus (i.e. looking around and about, fascinatedly).
It's perfectly natural for someone in your position to have these worries so don't take them/yourself too seriously, it's just nervous (noivous) anticipation making your negative imagination run away with you (witchoo). If the event to come wasn't an unknown quantity but was instead something you were pre-guaranteed to enjoy, your imagination would be giving you thoroughly enjoyable day-dreams and fantasies instead. Whichever flavour, imagination is cur-AP at predicting outcomes that match the ensuing reality.
(Sarry, could NAT resist!...been lately watching Cheers....."Norm!"/"Cliffie!"... LOL)