Lost in my marriage with a possible narcissist
My significant other is often angry. He has attitude when asked simple questions quite often, like I politely ask if he can see (the lights were very dim while changing our newborn son's nappy) and he snapped back that yes he can see, as if inasked him some demoralizing question. I come back from the bathroom and he's on the bed with our son, he asks me with attitude in his voice (as if I've done him some huge disservice) "are you done!?" And i in a mocking voice at my wits end say "I'm done!" And he calls me a bitch for mocking him.
He calls me names often, even when "joking around" like bitch, cunt, slut. Even when he's joking I hate it, because he's rarely affectionate anymore or at all, it feels so real. He gets mad so easily, and calls me crazy. I try to talk to him about the way he talks to me in a way I hope he understands and he says I'm trying to start a fight and "fuck you". That is starting a fight right there.
I am totally lost in my marriage. I've been told by his very friends that he's immature emotionally.... sure, I'm validated, but what does that do for me in the moment? I hurt. I want him to want me again, to touch me, to hug me and hold me. I want him to talk sweetly to me. I'm just so lost. I don't feel i can leave him because we have a newborn who needs his daddy and mommy and I have a beautiful stepson so really needs me. I feel trapped, i feel alone, I feel my husband thinks I'm worthless more than half the time.
What's sad is that my parents are visiting, and in front of them he is like normal and star husband. He's always in a hurry to be done with me when they aren't there it feels like.
How long have you been married? Was he like this before you were married with an attitude problem? You might want to consider marriage counseling.