I'm having a serious problem in my marriage
CHERISH - Oct 18 2016 at 09:06
We are barely four months in marriage and I already feels my husband doesn't love me. He listens to his friends and family against what we both agreed on to do. Anytime I try to bring his attention to it, he will say I complain a lot and he will stop picking my calls nor reply my chats. Pls I need some advice as we both don't live together, he is in California and I'm in Nigeria .
Things would be very different if you were present with him and were experiencing it live. Distances create misunderstandings. When you are living together you will not feel this way, that he is listening to his friends and parents more and that he doesn't value your opinion. He is just doing what he feels right. It is not intended to purposely hurt you. You both need to create a stronger trust system. Every marriage takes a lot of effort to make things work. If you both start avoiding conversations, start disbelieving each other, make imaginary enemies of his friends and family, then this is going to go southwards.
So maybe you need both need to understand that distances are going to create these misunderstandings. The only way to work things out is to firstly start communicating more clearly and as often as possible. You both need to trust each other's decisions too. Don't assume that he is going against you. It generally is never the case.
Thank you HARRY888, this means a lot to me