Do or do not?
AMAN314 - Oct 19 2016 at 03:10
So my girlfriend and I broke up a few days ago. Long distance and was too hard. We were best friends for 4 years before dating. And she always had a long battle with depression. It had gotten better when she was 17-18 but going into college now it got bad. The one time I went to visit her she had cut herself and told me her suicidal thoughts and said she would go look for help but idk if she ever did. Recently on FaceTime she was about to cut herself again but I stopped her. And because of getting fucked up so bad over the weekend she didn't take her happy pills for 4 days. It's a big transition to be away from me and her family so it got to her. I told her best friend regarding the incidents and she thanked me and went to talk to her. Shortly after my ex blocked me on all social media because she was probably mad I let out all her secrets regarding her depression. But I rather have her alive and pissed than to do something really stupid. A lot of people have been telling me to tell her parents and I don't know that's kind of awkward for me but do you think it's something I should do?
Im really sorry you broke up, long distance relationships can be really hard.
Firstly i'm really please she got a couple years of depression free or just being better :) its such a horrible thing to cope with and it must of been hard for you and loved ones to see her go through this. The good thing is it can be controlled. When people who suffer with depression are stable and in a happy place and have a good relationships with loved one, everything is under control, most of the time. But a big change like going to college can completely throw people and put them out of their comfort zone, like you said! IT can lead them to old habits or new coping mecnisms that arent helpful, like self harm, excessive drinking or just be really low and hide away and not interact with anyone or the opersite etc, often its things know they shouldnt do but do it anyway, they are trying to make themselves feel better and kick their depression.
You deffinately did the right thing by telling her best friend dont ever doubt that because sometimes loved ones can get put in very difffcult situations. yes your gf is proabably furious with you but like you said its best to have her alive then not and i hope she thanks you one day.
If her parents are aware, supportive and understanding of her depression (i hope they are!), and have helped, I would tell them, they must be aware that going to college could trigger it off? I think they will thank you like the best friend did. If they are not so understanding i would check in with her best friend asap, see how your ex gf is doing, and if shes coping/getting help/ taking medication, but i dont think the responsibility should be left with just you guys and maybe you need to talk about telling her parents. It sounds like she need some professional help.
I hope this was some help,
Her mom has helped her before she's said to me my mom would be so appreciative of you helping me but so heart-broken if she heard I was regressing again. So yeah they have been helpful in those situations
Then I think there is your answer hope ally is ok mia