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I think I now know why my parents split up :(

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Emotional advice Hi, I was at my dad work place this afternoon, I go there sometimes after school and help out on reception or do some filing, my dads a gp. At the end of surgery my dad walks into reception with a nurse I've never met before. As they carried on talking I couldn't help but notice that is nurse was really flirting with my dad, She kept on laughing at everything he said, he wasn't being that witty and kept touching his arm. My dad is not a touchy feely person and normally, he'd get a bit uncomfortable but he didn't and I don't know, he just seemed to be looking at her in an odd way. He then introduced me to her and I said hi but she didn't seem that interested and carried in talking to my dad.

When my dad and the nurse left reception got a bit tearful , I'm slightly sensitive at the moment! and one of the reception ladies, who I know really well asked me what was wrong. I asked her if she knew that my parents had split up and she was really shocked and said no but wondered why she hadn't seen my mum around the surgery, she alway used to pop in to the surgery. She asked why they broke up and I told I had no idea and that my parents were being really secretive about it. We had a bit of a heart to heart and I asked about this new nurse, she's a locum nurse who started at the beginning of the end of spring , my parents broke up at the beginning of the summer. I feel like I'm a detective!

I talked to my boyfriend about this evening, I was being a bit quiet, and he thinks I'm over analysing, which I do, do but I can't stop because to me it all fits. My boyfriend pointed out that my dad really wouldn't make it that obvious, if he was in a relationship with this nurse. I don't know, it could be his odd/guilty way of trying to tell me. To me it all fits and I want to talk to my dad about this but I'm scared he'll get angry and think I'm accusing him if I'm wrong ? but he and my mum haven't left me with much choice but to speculate or question things. What should I do? Does it sound like I'm being silly? I just feel so sad that some one else had potentially come between my parents marriage and was hoping this would not be the outcome. Thanks for reading.

I think I now know why my parents split up :(

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:-@ Omg! I am so sorry.... I know and understand how you're feeling.
My dad I believe was having an affair on my mom I found not 1 put to info papers on Viagra in our car and mom told him I found them she was FURIOUS!
Had his name on it for the prescroption of Viagra and said was for his uh friend Tony and his wife Wendy who are sleeping in seprate bedrooms. Yeah Right!
The secetary wanted me to shed some papers this viagra info was in a small bag she made sure if I didn't find the first one I should surely find the 2nd one.
I was devasted!
My dad and I had a BIG fight over this and it was bad...
I was loosing my girl dog she was dying I didn't know it I think maybe I did but didn't want to admit it and that was the last day I seen her and the worst because she was dying and the big fight!
I have no idea what kind of relationship you have with your dad I would say speak to him but maybe you should say nothing I am sure your mom knows.
I don't know because with dad and I it made a HUGE rift between us and he said I was a b--th house weaker and broke up his marriage and our family.
Depends on how close your dad and yourself are.
I wish your luck !
I don't want to say he is or isn't having an affair only he, this nurse and your mom (may or may not know) I can't say or wont try.
Please know I am here for you and always happy to listen.
So sorry you, your sister, brother and parents are going though this. (((hugs)))))

I think I now know why my parents split up :(

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"he and my mum haven't left me with much choice but to speculate or question things."

This kind of thinking must cause you pain. You should go from guessing to finding out what happened.

You don't mention your mother. Why don't you ask her what happened between her and your father that made the separation?

The "no talk" rule about issues like this causes pain and confusion for everyone.

I think I now know why my parents split up :(

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Oh Lily :(, I'm sorry.

I wouldn't like to guess or say for sure . I'd love to be able to reassure you in some way, but unfortunately the out come was never going to an easy one for you or your brother and sister to hear. Sure if they just had a really had argument and needed time apart, but were working on things that could of been a tiny bit easier but parent separation is such a shit thing to deal with, so I really sympathise with you.

You saw what you saw and something came up for you that wasnt quite right and its important to listen to those feelings, you seem very intuitive, which is a god skill to have!

Is there not rules about doctors having relationships with staff? Is your dad a salereied doctor or a partner of the surgery? You say this nurse is a locum, so I dont know if that makes a difference.

Your boyfriend could be right, why would your dad make it that obvious but I also think your very right in that it could just be your dads way of telling you. When people are riddled with guilt they often give out little signs or let things slip, whether they mean to or not. Analysing things is not such a bad thing to do as long as you can switch off and i can see why you are anaysling this much.

I agree i think its does depend how close you are to your dad. Your prefectly entitled to question things, like you say they haven't given you much of a choice. You could just ask him quite simply and tell him how you felt at the time, if your wrong you can only applogise but mention that your struggling with this situation and they it would really help you if you have some idea as to whats going on.

You mentioned somewhere you were going to see an aunt and talk to er about this are you still doing that?

Look after yourself Mia x

I think I now know why my parents split up :(

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I was really close to my mum and dad. But now I feel like, quite distant from them and angry that this has been dragged out for so long. Yes it is painful for all my family

I don't really know about the rules for doctors dating staff I think it's much worse if it was a patient. My dad is one of the partner and he acts as practice manager too social he hires as and when

It's half term next week and my boyfriend has managed to convince me to wait till then to talk to my dad. in the school holidays I usually go work at the surgery so I might get a better idea if there is anything..

I have thought about asking my mum. When I have done in the past she always got really upset to the point where she can't say anything. The fact she's been so emotional is another reason as to why I think I might be right on this. I'm going to see my aunt at the weekend but I don't think she know much so I might just be a nice trip out.

I don't really know about the rules for doctors dating staff I think it's much worse if it was a patient. My dad is one of the partner and he acts as practice manager too social he hires as and when

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