Relationship without trust
DOM549 - Dec 1 2016 at 01:06
Hi, so the story is that im in a relationship for now 2 years and its great we knew each other long before its a strong bond we have.
But before 1 month i have some bad fellings and i tought she was cheeting on me and as every guy i tried to find out if i can prove that,
(my computer skills came in play and lets say i just got everything I needed by that)
so i found out that my gf was talking and flirting whit multiple guys, most of them were her ex-s
and i also found out that she cheeted on me on the summer but thats where i stoped and i told her what I saw... but im stupidly in love and forgive her that and after that scene I found out she was still
talking whit the few guys also... flirting :/ and as I more searched I found some bad things about her and her cheeting.. it dosent say directly that she cheeted on me multiple times but it has her agreeing to do that and I dont really know what to do...
we made up but im having issues to trust her kuz she is lying a lot and i cought her multiple times lying straight to my face but now its all good... whit her atlest and I check on her now and then but I dont know if I will ever get that trust back and should I really get it back :/
I want someones else opinion on this i will be thankfull :)
I really do think she will cheat on u again, it's hard when trust is gone and if she is gonna break it after you've established it back. it seems that she doesnt think of it as serious as you feel it to be. have u forgiven her that easy? coz if you did she will surely think you will never lead her side and that will be a big problem.
we fought really hard and I didnt forgive her easy. Im just scaried becouse she said she had fellings for those guys 2 of them actualy and every time I think of her her cheating comes to my mind :/
Its realy hard for me to forget all of this. I too think that she will cheat on me again :/
I am sorry to say that I think it is time to move on! Trust is gone and she doesn't seem to be ready to give up these other guys. Give her more time if you want but I would have an eye out for someone that truly wants to be with you and only you. Hard to do I know...
You really seem stuck on that girl to have put up with so much. You shouldn't have to put up with lies. I agree that she will have an intimate relationship again, regardless of your objections. If you know that and still want her, negotiate something you can both live with that includes disclosure and honesty. Then, she will not be cheating if she follows the rules. Be sure that you get the same rights and rules for yourself. You would be practicing polyamory and there are lots of blogs and podcasts with tips on making that work.