Sad but hopeful
Hello, my marriage was on the brink of divorce. i suffer from social phobia. it got to a point where it was affecting my marriage. my wife and i were estranged. i could not open myself up to her. our sex life went to null. we considered separating. i was so down and depressed, without any goals or desires that i felt guilty for trapping her in a sexless marriage. so much that i suggested that she see other people. she was angry at first but she is now seeing someone. and isn’t this what is turning my marriage around! it made me wake up and see that i still loved my wife and to start fighting for our marriage again. the process is slow, but yesterday we had sex again after a one-year hiatus.
i am seeing a therapist and i went to see a psychiatrist, who prescribed antidepressants. after 21 days of the drug, i am feeling better. i have even lost 3 kilos (i was weighing 107 kilos). i am hopeful but sad because she is still seeing the other guy.
should i continue to take things slow and see what happens? i mean, it was my idea in the first place to suggest an open marriage. now what?!?
Yes unfortunately your idea was a bad one. Once you open the door in your marriage it's very difficult to close it shut again. I would talk this over with your wife tell her how much you really love her and ask if she could please find it in her heart to stop seeing this other guy.
Other than that I'd recommend you both seek outside help as in counciling.
Do you know this other guy she's seeing?