Marry him or not?
What will you do?
What will you do if you are in a difficult situation? And you really can't decide? One day, you just found yourself really happy to be with one person, thinking that he was the one for you. But you are just friends, and you loving him not just friends. Months had passed , he become so cold to you' with no reason. Then, he tell you that he tried to love you but he sees you only as a friend. That day, you are really hurt. So much that he's still always in your mind even you're so busy with other works. You are trying to forget, but he still messaging once in a while wanting to know 'how are you doing?'. Then, no more hurt feelings, both of you started to talk again and share things as friends. But you, you're still hoping more than that. Then, one day he asked you something' Something that isn't a joke and he was so serious about it? He said, "You know my plans right?" I said, "Yes!" "Are you okay with it?" , he said. "What?" - I'm just shocked ! "I want to do my plans, I'm turning 24 and i want to marry! would you marry me?"
The rest of our conversation was discussion about it, but i really never say yes to him. I just say "I will think of it but its really hard thing".
This time we are just friends, we are not even lovers. Then, out of the blue he will ask me that? I love him, but i'm hiding this feeling... Its not the marriage i was thinking. I'm dreaming that someday i will find the right person for me, we will be couples first and travel the world. And if we really click to each other and love each other, he will propose to me and if i say yes - we will plan for our wedding, save money for it, do it step by step. Not like this, i don't want to rush things like this. He's really out of his mind, even i love him, i think he don't feel the same.
I really don't know why he need to marry at the age of 24? Is there a curse that needed to end? is he dying? why? why? He only telling me its his plan' , and he don't want that his plan will be ruin? If i'm not the one who will marry him, he will find another girl ! What should i do? Can you help me? I'm insane, I can't help myself thinking of it !
I can't say yes ! Im only turning 23, i don't think my parents will agree to this. Even i'm working, i don't have savings... I don't have any to share for us. And i'm still supporting my siblings and parents. I'm not yet ready for it. I'm crying for this. He need my answer. So' even a short advice or opinion from those who's reading this, I really appreciate and thank you so much.
Sounds like HE has a plan and wants to fit someone into it, whether they like it or not.
Don't be a part of his rigid self-destiny.
He needed to woo you (romantic-wise)and for both of you to be in love with each other. This doesn't sound like it.
Wish him well on his self-imposed schedule.
Move on and find a true love.
I agree with susiedqq.
don't marry this man, it all sounds too pressured and as though there is some other agenda going on here that isn't very easy to distinguish from what small amount we know.
if he is like this now, what will it be like for you if he thinks you are his property 24-7!!!
this isn't what love feels like!
why not spend a bit more time enjoying the company of those who make you happy, can love you properly and or care for you.
you don't sound that happy with him, so why not let I'm find someone else to be his wife.
if you don't think you are ready, it is because you are not ready. but at least you have been smart enough to recognise this before it is too late.
follow your heart for this situation. good luck.