At work people seem to like me and have said that I'm really kind and caring and funny but no one seems to want to see me outside of work unless they're a guy flirting with me and trying to sleep with me. I can be a bit socially awkward when I first meet people but I wouldn't say I'm really shy, I can talk to people and hold a conversation.
I've never had many friends at all, I had a group of girl friends when I was around 14 and was friends with them for about a year until they all made new friends and started getting into relationships (which I'm terrible at too by the way I've never had a relationship and everyone whose interested in me only wants to have sex and not spend time with me?)
It really gets me down because all the people I know through work or went to school with have big groups of friends and I see over social media them all having group chats and going out together and I really want that, it's not like I'm expecting to have a huge group of friends like them I just want one or two that I can spend time with.
Has anyone got any suggestions of what I can do or might know what it is I'm doing wrong? Thanks
People at your work could just be busy outside of work, doesn't mean they do want to go out with you or dislike you. Also I think friends come and go, I don't think I'll be friends with some of my friends I have now at school, when I go to uni.
Why do you think this guy, is a friend out of choice? I think he would of stopped being friends with you a long time ago if that was true, so carry on being friends with him .
So here's what you can do. For starters, find a hobby or two, and also work on improving yourself! I spend a lot of time learning new things and working on self-development. I paint, and draw, I learned how to crochet and knit, and I'm teaching myself to play guitar. I also started making a daily routine of meditating, doing some yoga, etc. You can take short free courses online, read, anything really. This helps you enjoy spending time with yourself more, have better self esteem, and less of a need to be with people.
Secondly, remember this: to make a friend, you have to be a friend! I have social anxiety as well which makes it hard to reach out to people. But, let's say you find some cool hobbies for yourself, and there, you have something to talk about! You may even meet friends through your new hobbies.
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