Stuck in a relationship
Hi all, I am in a relationship with a married woman. She has two kids. We have been together for almost a year and intimate for more than 6 months. She claims that she loves me. She calls me every day and visits my house almost daily. She says that she is happy with me. I keep asking her if she loves me enough to divorce her husband. She always answers: only if he dies naturally or when a truck runs him over. She will not divorce him. She says that it will hurt him pretty bad and that she can't live with them thoughts that he is hurting. I have asked on many occasions if she loves him, and she tells the truth: she does love him dearly. Does she love me only for my wealth, sex or other things? I am confused. I thought if a woman loves you enough she will go beyond an existing relationship. If a woman really loves her husband then why cheat on him? I'd like to continue with her alone, but if that is not an option... I need some clear advise what I should do. Please I do not need a lecture about married woman, and how nasty it is to do this... I know.
This woman's action are doing the talking and she wants the best of both worlds. You allow her to achieve it by being available to her. It's your choice whether you continue to listen to her deceit or you move on to someone else who has enough respect for themselves to treat others the same. She's never going to be upfront with you when she can't be upfront with her husband and it's the trust of the whole situation, in every way, that is missing.
As for lecturing you about affairs with married women, why would anyone bother when you already know it's wrong and that alone should be a heads up for you that there is no light at the end of this tunnel and there never has been.
"I need some clear advise what I should do."
ACCEPT that she has made her decision and will not be available for you. She has been honest with you about this.
CUT her off. Let her go. She knows this is a lose-lose thing right now. (Don't be surprised if she finds someone else to fill your spot.)
LOOK for another lady who is available. Start dating right away.