Now we are facing a family christening followed by a party. My husband has said to me point blank that he wont go to anything where she will be. He wants us to make up another commitment for the day. I don't think this is right. I think he should either be honest with his children about his feelings, or that we should go. He is very stubborn and I know this will cause issues. I really don't know how to handle this.
I have a lovely relationship with his child and their partner, and their new baby is gorgeous. His ex wife is smarmy nice to me but plays the
Respectfully, I do see his point. Sounds like he will do anything to avoid her & he has clearly had enough of her bs.
However, why should you guys have to skip out on family gatherings & miss special events such as a christening? I think you should attend for that reason. As a married couple, you need to show a united front towards her. That means when she tries to exclude you or minimise your place in his life, he must be firm with her & not allow it to happen. The same goes with you, respond to her like 'As his wife, I think..." or something similar. Throw it right back at her, all your doing speaking the truth after all!
I think if a confrontation is avoided to 'keep the peace', she wins at her game. You & your husband need to take back the power but remain gracious about it (using a firm tone in your voices rather than shouting for example).
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