Is my partner mentally abusing me or do I deserve it all?
I got married to the guy of my dreams in 2000. Id known him since i was 10. In the first year he cheated on me with m own sister. I could never forget it - and still cant. We split for a year after that and then decided to get back together. A few years later, we had 2 children. Then he started refusing sex and we became more and more distant. In that time I met a guy on the internet. My children were 5 and 3 by this time and I was unhappy. This guy made me feel special. He lived in Northern Ireland and I was in England. After a few months, he wanted me to come see him. My marriage was over by this time. So I did. We spent a week together and we had a really good time. I thought id finally found my prince.
I went back another two times and each time we had a nice time. He was 28 and still living with his parents so i said it would be better if he got his own place so we wouldn't have to keep forking out for hotels. Next thing I know I got a call from him asking me the dates of births of my children. So i asked why? He said he'd found a house for us all. I was totally shocked.
Anyway, i ended up over here in northern Ireland.
(He doesn't work by the way - he has a bad back)
Now hes angry all the time, takes everything out on me and the children and every time I talk about going home to England, he threatens to kick me and my children out. Thats fine, but he also has control of all our money so he knows we wont be able to get back. This is definatley not the same guy i met.
Hes never actually hit me, but has grabbed me and shoved me around. Hes a big bully and I worry for my children. Its got hat bad that I dont want him to touch me and I don't want to touch him. Now he emotionally manipulates me into having sex with him. The really bad news is, is that now I am 6weeks pregnant and i cant get a termination in Northern Ireland and he has threatened that if I do, he will kill me. He has nothing to live for. I really dont know wht to do. I wish I had never come here. Every day I cry. Me and my children used to be happy and confident - Not anymore.
Just wondering if anyone has been in the same boat?
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Hey,i m sorry for u.i 23 m frm india. Nd I realy think u should get some legal help. U r not officialy married then u can leave easily.u jst need someone to help u get out. U certainly made a mistake by movin inthere.maam I think u should do whatever it takes to hv ur children safe.dont worry being a mom u hav got that in u. Jst be wise nxt time .never compromise ur childrens happines with urs,which u did this time.i really feel that I could hv helped u. But dont loose hope no one deserves anythng like this.jsr be strong fr ur childrens. I pray u get out of this soon.good luck.