Suspicious of husband
MINNIE21 - Mar 1 2017 at 15:43
New to this site. Needing to vent really....my husband and i have been together 9 years. We have two kids. I just had our son in june. Well while i was pregnant he met a couple he wanted us to all be freinds. I never had anything really in common with the wife but i was still freindly. I know they all smoke pot. I find out my husband and the wife had smoked alone a few times. This upsets me. I try to talk to him about it and it gets brushed off. He treats me like i was pregnant and over reacting. He says its just on there porch. He eventually stops. So he says, he also was freinds with there family. Who end up giving me nasty looks when they see me. Im assuming because i didnt want them hanging out with my husband....more details to this would be when i was 9 months pregnant she would show up constantly at my door as soon as my husband would get home, like she was watching for him. And would come off flirty, like the way someone would behave if they had a crush. One day she thought i coudnt hear them talking outside and she wanted him to see if he could get her weed and he went to his other freinds house and got it. Well when he came back to our porch she was all like thankyou i could hug you.....and i heard him say dont do that. And she goes oh, you prolly stink. Just sounded too flirty to me. They have since moved away. But i am still angry.....sorry this is long. Just looking for some advice. Noone to talk to about it.
Am not a relationship expert or even married. Is it possible that your pregnancy could have played a role in feeling suspicious of your husband? Most women could feel like they are not attractive enough when pregnant to their partners. The presence of this lady could have lead to you questioning yourself if he still finds you attractive. Considering that you have been together for this long, some challenges will always pop up.
Am sure if you spoke about how their interaction made you feel could somehow give you a chance to have a closure of what happened. The talk should not about insinuating if an affair happened between them but rather of how hard that time was for you. His response could help you forgive him and them move on with life. If the issue is left unresolved more suspicions could arrive in the future.
Just my view (A)