PeoplesProblems Logo
We urgently require support responding to new threads in the forum - are you able to assist?

Girlfriend's mom forces breakup

Default profile image
Long Distance Relationship advice So this all starts back about two years ago when I met this girl while we were both on a vacation, and we saw an interest in each other. That's when I first learned about how strict her mom is with other boys. Nothing happened during that week and we both went back to where we lived with nothing but a fun week, which was nice to have at that point. Over the next two years until maybe two months ago we only talked on birthdays to wish each other a happy birthday, or on holidays, or when someone posted in our group chat that is always on mute for me.



Two months ago we really start reconnecting and I find out she is happy and has a boyfriend and has moved houses and everything couldn't be better for her. I think that's awesome, and now I have my friend back that I still have interest in (cause I am the worst at getting over people). Anyway, a week after the first time we really talk she tells me that she broke up with her boyfriend because he wanted to do things with her that she didn't want to do. I am there for here and we are talking about life and she brings up the vacation from two years ago, and says she regrets not doing anything with me. Over the next week or so I notice she is flirting with me and since I do like her, I am flirting back and it comes to the point where she asked me to be her boyfriend. Happily, I said yes, and we were a long distance couple.



Our relationship was super healthy and we loved talking to each other and everything was perfect. We were even planning to meet up again for a weekend. That is, until I got a message from her last night saying that her mom went through her snapchat and saw all the messages that I saved, and that her mom was freaking out at her because of this. It also doesn't help that her mom likes the boy she was dating before and wants them to get back together. I'm trying to talk with her to fix this problem but I couldn't do much before her mom blocked me on Facebook, Instagram, and snapchat. I don't know if my number is blocked but I'm not going to check just in case it isn't, I don't want to mess anything else up for her.



When I was able to talk to her she said she tried unsaving the snapchat texts but couldn't (they were saved on my end), which is what caused her mom to freak out at her, and now she's gone from my life again. The worst part about this is that I know it is all my fault. I was the one who saved the snapchats that her mother saw, and then her mother forced her to break up with me and block me. Her mom is now going through all of her contacts, photos, Facebook friends, Instagram followers, and snapchat friends to delete people that she is not close with, and I fall into that boat.



By writing this I'm not asking for anyone to be upset for me or anything, I just want advice because I really do love her and she is one of the most important people in my life, and for her to be gone again is painful.

Girlfriend's mom forces breakup

Default profile image
Honey you didn't do anything wrong. By the sounds of it, you two are young. Being a mom myself, I can understand her mother being protective (maybe a little too much). And once being a young girl myself, I know what it's like to have your parents lay down their law when they don't approve. Give it time for everything to cool down at their house. Your friend will know how to contact you again when the time is right.

Girlfriend's mom forces breakup

Default profile image
May I ask your ages? Moms reaction seems severe, but there are many missing factors.

What kind if messages were you two sharing?

Again - just trying to figure out MomS reaction

Girlfriend's mom forces breakup

Default profile image
Susiedqq,

We are both 17 years old (I'm born April '99 and her December '99). And the messages we were sending were mostly non explicit, however the ones that were, weren't saved (like on snapchat we didn't save the chats, or deleted the messages afterwards).

Girlfriend's mom forces breakup

Default profile image
@missmlee

I have a backup snapchat that I could use to try and add her but I don't know if it is a good idea. She doesn't know I have one and the only reason I have it for Internet safety.

Girlfriend's mom forces breakup

Default profile image
Who doesn't know you have the other Snapchat acct? Your friend or her mother?

Girlfriend's mom forces breakup

Default profile image
@missmlee

Neither her nor her mom know about my alternate. I usually only use it to send things to myself so I'm the only one who knows it.

This thread has expired - why not start your own?

B-0