Virginity test before marriage
SANDHYA - Mar 15 2017 at 07:12
I am Female, 26 years,
We both are in 5 years distance relationship & we meet each other once before 4 years.
Now we are going to marry soon.
But He is asking for virginity test before that ( me & he also will give the test).
Will u tell me pls, is it correct to give this type of test??
A virginity test is generally where someone examines your, um, nether regions and checks for the presence of a hymen. It's notoriously inaccurate (some women lose their hymen from non-sexual activities like horseback riding, a few keep it even post sex). It's also a really weird thing to ask. (And in my mind would be a good reason to never talk to this guy again.)
Before you consider this marriage, I'd ask:
1. Why does he care?
2. Why does it matter?
3. What happens if you 'fail' because your hymen broke due to using tampons, riding a horse, or something else that's completely innocuous?
Sorry? You've been in a long-distance relationship but met only once during the first four years, whereupon you and he got engaged? Did I understand that right?
And now he wants a virginity test? But he'll subject himself to one, too? What, so the doctor can confirm what they both know, that he has no hymen??
If this is right then I'm with SilviaGirl. Because, either this guy trusts you or he doesn't - in which case, why would he make the gesture (engagement ring) that said he does already?
Has he even given you a proper engagement ring?
When EXACTLY was the first time you met him, and how many times since did you and he meet up in-person before he proposed marriage?
What other unreasonable requests or demands has he made?
Thanks for your reply @SOULMATE.
We are in long distance relationship, due to some financial problem & other issues, he couldn't meet in 4 years.
Before 4 years, he is running his own textile manufacturing unit, but something wrong was happens and he lost his total business and company.
he was invest his 80% money in stock market & occurred loss...
That's why he cant meet me in 4 years (what told by him) i trust him, so i wait 4 him till time..
Bcoz i truly love him, so i think my duty to be moral support of him during this crucial situation.
He was talked with my parents for marriage & my family accept his proposal..
No engagement ring was given by him.
(Was everyone waiting for me?)
Sandhya, I'm so very sorry you were left waiting for an answer. Before I go ahead with replying - are you still there?