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Am I still my fiancée type!?

My Fiancée and I have been together for 8 years and we love each other so much. Only thing is I have recently discovered that he is obsessed with other woman who are completely covered in tattoos. I really like tattoos and I have nothing against them but I don't have any and I don't really want any at this stage.I love them but just not on me. I have noticed my fiancée is always looking up girls on the internet that are almost completely covered with them. He finds it very sexy and I am feeling very insecure. He tells me he doesn't think it's sexy but he's looking at it all the time. Does this mean he isn't attracted to me because I don't have any? Or is it normal for a guy to find that sexy and also find me sexy without the tattoos?

Am I still my fiancée type!?

I don't think there's a single thing that ALL guys find either sexy or unsexy. But yes, plenty of men find tattoos sexy. Plenty find them ugly. Plenty don't care either way, at least in my experience. My assumption would be that your boyfriend finds you sexy. But I'd also ask myself some questions. What does he do (in normal) life that makes you feel sexy/not sexy? Does he pay attention to you? Call you beautiful? Act like he likes you? Initiate sex? If he's clearly *into* you, sure, maybe he finds it fun to look at sexy women with tattoos...but he probably also finds you plenty sexy. If he's not doing that, though, it might be worth asking him what's going on.

Am I still my fiancée type!?

The man either loves you as you are or he doesn't, tattoos or no tattoos. It's all OK that he finds tattooed women attractive and sexy and it's all OK that you have an appreciation for the fine artwork of a well done tattoo (many people do) but it's not all OK when he says he isn't attracted (to tattooed girls) when he obviously is. If he only looks at women with tattoos and not men, then it's not really just about the tattoos. Yes, his actions are making you insecure and therefore you need to communicate to him how these actions could well ruin your 8 year old relationship together. It's not so much about you demanding or even negotiating with him, that he stop his obsession, rather, it's about him loving you and accepting you as you are without 'betraying' you and your relationship together.

Am I still my fiancée type!?

I think most men like a wide variety of women, though they may have particular things that they generally really like. They might appreciate certain features on a really specific sort of woman. Even, over time, I have found that I start to appreciate new things that maybe I never really paid as much attention to before. Your man might not be interested in women in tattoos. He might be telling the truth. Maybe there is something else about the women in these pictures that he likes. Or maybe he just thinks something about these tattooed women is cool, and it actually doesn't have a lot to do with attraction. Maybe these women are the right body shape, or have some image or give off some personality he likes? Maybe it's more about piercings they have, or the extreme hairstyles, or some such. Or, maybe he is really into it, but is just beginning to realize it? It's really difficult to say. If your man tells you he likes the way you look, I would believe him. Your soon-to-be-husband is with you. I'd say that's the first sign that he might be into you. : P

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