I am alarmed now because suddenly last week, after having me on his friend's list for four months, he's now deleted his FB account! I searched for him but there's no trace of him (even a friend confirmed this) but now to my surprise, I've come across his another account that is almost 8 years old. The account is set in private mode, I can't see his friend's list but can see some pictures he had posted in public mode 8 years back. He had pictures of his from his late 20s and early 30s, as well as lots of pictures of his niece, a toddler than. On one such picture of his niece, I found a fond comment by a woman. I checked her profile, she is in her late 30s now, lives in another country and is single. When I did my snooping around a bit, I realised, the woman was my husband's ex, the one he loved before he married me. They were in a long distance relationship for five years and had to part ways under pressure from family owing to their religious differences. I checked up further on the woman's profile and realised she doesn't have my husband on her friend's list and her posts were work related.
So far, I believe, my husband and his ex are not in touch with each other but I have a nagging feeling he isn't over her yet. Although, they're not on each other's friend's list, through her comments, she's there for everyone to see, whereas I am nowhere around. Ideally, my husband could have deleted that picture with his ex's comments on his profile but he has not. He doesn't seem uncomfortable and it seems, like all his friends and family knew about them and even acknowledged her. Honestly, I had an idea that he was involved with someone in the past but not to the extent I have figured now.
As far as we are concerned, we have never shared anything out of ordinary but it has been ok so far. However, his reluctance to accept and acknowledge me and our kids on his social media profile has got me thinking now. I can still deal with his reluctance to post our pictures but I can't fathom his hesitance towards posting pictures of our children, when he could post pictures of his niece.
Please help me understand what could be his compulsion or motivation in acting the way he's.
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